Relationships help: Do popular, sociable guys ever fall for the not-so-popular girl? - Help.com

im not sure, it seems like that in movies :L
but god, i really wish they did, i fit into that character and its really hard to get a nice guy :/

possibly. but who knows, anything could happen.
and even if it doesnt, theres always boys in your social area who you can be with :)

(: yeah i guess
but the majority of guys in my group are twats or very, very gay ;P

hmm. cause I realise i tend to attract these kinds actually.. though i kinda avoid them. i live in asia, so this popularity thing isnt that big a deal, and popular ppl are usually ignored.. but i always wondered why it happened. hmm.

haha, interesting :)

they might be gay… or sensitive intellectual girls might be clingy. am a sociable cool noon playa guy, but am not gay and dont like klingons.

:L okay, sorry i wasnt tryin to offend you, i was just saying what the people in my group are like :)

intellectual girls clingy? hahaha i think ur generalising too much. what if she’s intellectual and independent? alot of girls i know are like that, but they happen to be single. independent as in she actually gives off a vibe that she’s cool and can do alot of things on her own. mature girl as well

yeah, i agree :)
i dont think im clingy, but im not really scarily independent either :)
but the only reason guys dont like me really, is cuz im really tiny ;)

kaity9 wrote:
yeah, i agree :)
i dont think im clingy, but im not really scarily independent either :)
but the only reason guys dont like me really, is cuz im really tiny ;)

ahaha nothing wrong being tiny babe! some tiny girls are quite cute :)
im not clingy at all, im more independent and like my freedom to my things and my space to be myself etc.
most guys who’ve liked me have just shown interest and have never made the BIG move. i always wondered why..
some pplsay i give off the “unavailable, aloof, unapproachable” vibe, but seriously if guys get scared off by such things, then thats just so wimpy. i just got a serious look on my face mostly. and my gfs have said i dont seem needy enough for a guy..

:) thats my problem, guys are like ‘awwh shes really cute’ but as in 5 yr old cute, not hot-cute ;P dont worry, il get over them til i find a nice, small guy :)
yeah, i think its just an excuse when guys say that, i mean, unless you’re playing hard to get on purpose, its pretty hard to give off that vibe. Whenever i like a guy, i always end up doing something really stupid in front of them, but thats kinda stupid, not needy haha :)

kaity9 wrote:
:) thats my problem, guys are like ‘awwh shes really cute’ but as in 5 yr old cute, not hot-cute ;P dont worry, il get over them til i find a nice, small guy :)
yeah, i think its just an excuse when guys say that, i mean, unless you’re playing hard to get on purpose, its pretty hard to give off that vibe. Whenever i like a guy, i always end up doing something really stupid in front of them, but thats kinda stupid, not needy haha :)

hahaha. i dont see a problem, hon. ive known guys who go crazy over small kids like how u’ve described urself (maybe i should ship them over to where u live ;)) and btw, they are usually the tall guys, not tiny at all. haha. but being hot is not everything seriously, you’ve just yet to meet that nice, proper guy who digs girls of ur size. but u sound like ur ok with it, are you? so meanwhile, enjoy life! :D

yup its totally an EXCUSE. exactly! its so hard to give off that vibe anyway! only girls who are snobs and full of themselves do it on purpose. hahahah! i do stupid things all the time to embarrass myself too. oh wells. :P hmm, abt playing hard to get on purpose.. i dont exactly do that.. but. when i realise someone’s showing interest in me, especially when i see him looking at me, i get really tensed and shy and i look away quickly or ignore him mostly. if he’s alone and it’s “convenient” i might go talk to him.. but do guys usually see that as disinterested? o.O the looking away thing

I’m a guy. If a guy gets his heart broken then he will follow his genitals. BUT anything is possible. Just don’t do the woman thing and try to control a guy. Ignore his genital drive and look for his deep morals.

haha, yeah im fine with it, im just gonna sit back and wait for a lovely guy to sweep me offa ma feet ! :D

jeez, i know a lot of those ’snobs’ and yeah they do do it a lot :/ suits them i guess..
yeah, i know what you mean, i think guys like that though, but they also like it when they think that contact between you is there idea. Men are like giant egos :)

i dont think they’d see it as disinterested, i think they probably enjoy it. They hate it when girls are mean or critical of them, as i said, they have very fragile egos :)

anything is possible. who knows.

okei! wrote:
anything is possible. who knows.

:)

kaity9 wrote:
haha, yeah im fine with it, im just gonna sit back and wait for a lovely guy to sweep me offa ma feet ! :D

jeez, i know a lot of those ’snobs’ and yeah they do do it a lot :/ suits them i guess..
yeah, i know what you mean, i think guys like that though, but they also like it when they think that contact between you is there idea. Men are like giant egos :)

i dont think they’d see it as disinterested, i think they probably enjoy it. They hate it when girls are mean or critical of them, as i said, they have very fragile egos :)

haha thats good, i like ur attitude! :D alot of girls are wayy too needy or desperate for bfs. im still waiting for one too! heh

wait, im confused, u mean they like the way i kinda ignore them? haha. casue idk, according to some males, its like interpreted as negative signals (seriously guys these days sound like such wimps. i dont know really how to show interest though.. im quite shy. how do YOU show interest?

Anonymous wrote:

okei! wrote:
anything is possible. who knows.

:)

never underestimate ur uniqueness. ur beautiful, talented, smart in ur own right/way!

:) i cant see the point of being like ‘waaaaaa! no one likes me!!’
because there will be, one day hopefully :)

well, thats what i thought anyway, but yeah!, guys are way to weedy these day >.
im really shy around guys, usually i act kinda sweet and kind, but thats me anyway :/
the thing is, i think they like a challenge, so im like the little, nice one who improves their ego, but they dont really need, which kinda sucks :/ one day though! :)

Can I just say. Don’t wait in your house on the sofa in front of a tv. You still need to get out there and flaunt! a club a bar a shop a street an event a chatroom a dating site a party a cinema at work at the beach. Doing nothing and going nowhere will get you nothing and nowhere. :)

okei! wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

okei! wrote:
anything is possible. who knows.

:)

never underestimate ur uniqueness. ur beautiful, talented, smart in ur own right/way!

thanks alot, thats nice to hear! :)

stateofflu wrote:
Can I just say. Don’t wait in your house on the sofa in front of a tv. You still need to get out there and flaunt! a club a bar a shop a street an event a chatroom a dating site a party a cinema at work at the beach. Doing nothing and going nowhere will get you nothing and nowhere. :)

i dont usually flaunt at these places usually. haha.i still prefer meeting guys in my college. hmm. i dont exactly flaunt anything.. well i dontknow. does being friendly to guys and playful and wearing eyeliner count? hahaha.

stateofflu wrote:
Can I just say. Don’t wait in your house on the sofa in front of a tv. You still need to get out there and flaunt! a club a bar a shop a street an event a chatroom a dating site a party a cinema at work at the beach. Doing nothing and going nowhere will get you nothing and nowhere. :)

yeah i guess :)
its harder when your more the quiet type though :/

Meh I know one thing.
A hellava lotta people decide against giving it a shot.

i reckon when you get more mature, the whole being sweet and friendly starts to count for more :)

Sorry when I say flaunt I don’t mean show your bits. I mean just be there. Try to chat to people and join in on the activity. :)

kaity9 wrote:
:) i cant see the point of being like ‘waaaaaa! no one likes me!!’
because there will be, one day hopefully :)

well, thats what i thought anyway, but yeah!, guys are way to weedy these day >.
im really shy around guys, usually i act kinda sweet and kind, but thats me anyway :/
the thing is, i think they like a challenge, so im like the little, nice one who improves their ego, but they dont really need, which kinda sucks :/ one day though! :)

YAR. they are so irritating and whiny that way. guess what? most of them are the ones getting attached where i am =/ seriously.

yeah most like a challenge, i dont purposely put on a challenge, but the shyness is somethng they and i have to overcome i guess. someone’s gotta be brave enough to break it down for me. ; ) im usually shy and like yeah. just shy, which is so not me. i feel so disgusted i wanna slap myself sometimes. like i would talk to a guy and blush or like, talk softly for no **** reason. or like be really subdued. or sound nervous. curse those 10 yrs i spend ina all-girls sch haha. i dont think guys like these types anyway haha

Keckers wrote:
Meh I know one thing.
A hellava lotta people decide against giving it a shot.

u mean the guys? just prefer to sit there and do nothing? =/

kaity9 wrote:
i reckon when you get more mature, the whole being sweet and friendly starts to count for more :)

agreed :D

stateofflu wrote:
Sorry when I say flaunt I don’t mean show your bits. I mean just be there. Try to chat to people and join in on the activity. :)

hahaha ur right, thanks! (:

Anonymous wrote:

Keckers wrote:
Meh I know one thing.
A hellava lotta people decide against giving it a shot.

u mean the guys? just prefer to sit there and do nothing? =/

No no no.
The wemenz.
Actually quite a few of them feel a tad bit too threatened by the bevy of girls hovering around this guy.
Blah.

Anonymous wrote:

kaity9 wrote:
i reckon when you get more mature, the whole being sweet and friendly starts to count for more :)

agreed :D

:) hahaa x

Keckers wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Keckers wrote:
Meh I know one thing.
A hellava lotta people decide against giving it a shot.

u mean the guys? just prefer to sit there and do nothing? =/

No no no.
The wemenz.
Actually quite a few of them feel a tad bit too threatened by the bevy of girls hovering around this guy.
Blah.

hmm i totally agree. i might be one of those girls. and sometimes maybe the ones who dont approach are actually the ones who make btr relationship material.

wats ur take on this? u prefer the woman to approach? what do u think of these girls that dont?

Anonymous wrote:

Keckers wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Keckers wrote:
Meh I know one thing.
A hellava lotta people decide against giving it a shot.

u mean the guys? just prefer to sit there and do nothing? =/

No no no.
The wemenz.
Actually quite a few of them feel a tad bit too threatened by the bevy of girls hovering around this guy.
Blah.

hmm i totally agree. i might be one of those girls. and sometimes maybe the ones who dont approach are actually the ones who make btr relationship material.

wats ur take on this? u prefer the woman to approach? what do u think of these girls that dont?

8D
I’m just going to assume you’re asking me from my cynical female observer perspective.
The ones who actually do end up confessing are well…uncommitable gits.
And the rather timid girls end up pining for the rest of their school year.
Being the unfeasibly idiotic friend to type2 girls I end up actually fixing everything for them.
Everything.
And it works.
Quite nicely for a long time.

Iss good.
:D

Keckers wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Keckers wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Keckers wrote:
Meh I know one thing.
A hellava lotta people decide against giving it a shot.

u mean the guys? just prefer to sit there and do nothing? =/

No no no.
The wemenz.
Actually quite a few of them feel a tad bit too threatened by the bevy of girls hovering around this guy.
Blah.

hmm i totally agree. i might be one of those girls. and sometimes maybe the ones who dont approach are actually the ones who make btr relationship material.

wats ur take on this? u prefer the woman to approach? what do u think of these girls that dont?

8D
I’m just going to assume you’re asking me from my cynical female observer perspective.
The ones who actually do end up confessing are well…uncommitable gits.
And the rather timid girls end up pining for the rest of their school year.
Being the unfeasibly idiotic friend to type2 girls I end up actually fixing everything for them.
Everything.
And it works.
Quite nicely for a long time.

Iss good.
:D

heh, i like the way you talk :D
yeah is it just me or i think the ones who confess are the really.. idk whats the word. typical ones. i dunno if u get what i mean.
haha i dont really pine.. but i just dont approach since i think like, ah, im wastng my time.
so u’ve fixed up ur timid gfs with hot guys? ;)

Anonymous wrote:

Keckers wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Keckers wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Keckers wrote:
Meh I know one thing.
A hellava lotta people decide against giving it a shot.

u mean the guys? just prefer to sit there and do nothing? =/

No no no.
The wemenz.
Actually quite a few of them feel a tad bit too threatened by the bevy of girls hovering around this guy.
Blah.

hmm i totally agree. i might be one of those girls. and sometimes maybe the ones who dont approach are actually the ones who make btr relationship material.

wats ur take on this? u prefer the woman to approach? what do u think of these girls that dont?

8D
I’m just going to assume you’re asking me from my cynical female observer perspective.
The ones who actually do end up confessing are well…uncommitable gits.
And the rather timid girls end up pining for the rest of their school year.
Being the unfeasibly idiotic friend to type2 girls I end up actually fixing everything for them.
Everything.
And it works.
Quite nicely for a long time.

Iss good.
:D

heh, i like the way you talk :D
yeah is it just me or i think the ones who confess are the really.. idk whats the word. typical ones. i dunno if u get what i mean.
haha i dont really pine.. but i just dont approach since i think like, ah, im wastng my time.
so u’ve fixed up ur timid gfs with hot guys? ;)

Ah shucks.
But honestly what’ve you got to loose?
Time? There’s plenty of that and if you really like this kid then you should really give it a shot.
Please please.
My timid HOT girlfriends with them social butterflies.
Even with the guy I’ve been personally…well..pining for for sometime.
It’s the friends first ideology…at least that’s what I keep telling myself.
I honestly don’t think I could have managed to get by my last year with him being the main topic of our conversations.
xD

to keckers:
heh. hmm. thing is ive never met him in person before. sigh. hahaha. but i would really want to, at least be able to creep into his social circle.
i dont even know how the hell is that possible. and what are the odds. though my college is tiny.
hmm. at least ur gfs are hot. im just normal. well, ppl have said im pretty but o well.
friends first? haha.

Anonymous wrote:
to keckers:
heh. hmm. thing is ive never met him in person before. sigh. hahaha. but i would really want to, at least be able to creep into his social circle.
i dont even know how the hell is that possible. and what are the odds. though my college is tiny.
hmm. at least ur gfs are hot. im just normal. well, ppl have said im pretty but o well.
friends first? haha.

Hmmm..you want to creep into hiss sociall circleee.
Well I suggest you find a friend who also fancies him and set them up together.
That way you’ll become his best friend and quite possibly his wingman for the rest of you life.
xD
Nah I’m kidding don’t do that.
Really how attractive you are doesn’t do much, I you want to approach someone the only thing you need to be is comfortable in your own skin and then just give it a shot.
In your case you really aren’t chummy with this guy therefore the repercussions really aren’t major or anything.
If it’s a small college and you have a couple of classes together, then try sitting close by and then con him into studying or solving an assignment with you.

Maaaaannn, how I long for small colleges.
My university is freaking huge!
And because I don’t have a cell I can’t keep in contact with anybody..I ended up giving up on making friends.
Blaah.
:)

HAHA. u know what? im just relying on fate to just somehow make me bump into him. we are in different faculties and he’s one year above me. so sharing classes though possible, are pretty slim.
oh i get what u mean! although its relatively small i can hrdly bump into anyone! its amazing. u just dont know where everybody is.
and ur so funny! hahaha

oh well, just see how it goes then.. the magic word: FATE (:

:D
Alright then, here’s to fate.
Wish you luck!

Keckers wrote:
:D
Alright then, here’s to fate.
Wish you luck!

thanks alot man. all the best to u too! :D