Wow… It almost felt like you were describing myself. I feel the exact same way! Always have! I hate going out to social events.I’m not particularly antisocial… I mean, I have friends who I enjoy hanging out with and going places with, like the movies and the mall. But when it comes to big things like weddings and parties of that sort, I avoid them like the plague. In fact, I already decided I do NOT want to have a wedding myself and that when I get married I’d like to have a nice quiet, private ceremony with very few people there, if any. I’d actually prefer to elope. And here I thought it was just me who felt this way. Nice to know I’m not alone… but then I guess that means neither are you! Relax, buddy. Everybody’s different. Going out to huge social events just isn’t our thing, apparently. It doesn’t make us weird or ‘no good’… it just makes us unique, which is not necessarily a bad thing. :)
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P.S. I’d also much rather stay at home watching a good tv show or surfing the net, chatting with friends on line. lol
Kinda sounds normal… I mean are you just being antisocial. Do you hate being around people or do you like being around people as long as you are in watching tv or whatever?
well..im not gonna lie to you. most people enjoy these things. most people have fun when theyre out with their friends. but maybe youre not like most people. just know yourself and accept yourself the way you are.
maybe its because you don’t like the people youre with? do you have like a few really close friends? if not and it doesnt bother you then forget about it. just enjoy yourself in whatever way you want.
Thanks for the bita moral support on the big family events..I wouldnt say i’m too anti-social either,as like you with your shopping,movies,i also do those things and enjoy doing them,its just when it comes to going to the above mentioned gatherings i cringe, maybe thers is an antisocial element to it to some degree but hey as you say,everybodys differt.
P.s its good to hear at 21 you’ve your wedding plans in order.Its surprisng tho all the girls i know want these big fancy dan wedding with all the trimmings that go with it!good on ya!
iluvmuzicxoxo wrote:
well..im not gonna lie to you. most people enjoy these things. most people have fun when theyre out with their friends. but maybe youre not like most people. just know yourself and accept yourself the way you are.
maybe its because you don’t like the people youre with? do you have like a few really close friends? if not and it doesnt bother you then forget about it. just enjoy yourself in whatever way you want.
Ya not liking the people i’m with may be a factor, i have quiet a few people i’d know and say hey ____ but in terms of close FRIENDS no,just two really outside my family.
lmao HECK no… I hate big crowds. Just hate them. They make me want to hyperventilate. I am Greek so it is kind of hard to explain to my family that I have no intention of having the typical ‘big fat greek wedding’ so to speak. I imagine it’ll be quite a shock to them when the time comes… but they’ll get over it… I hope, haha. No trimmings for me, lol. I’m not that high maintenance. I’d rather spend my money on the honeymoon than one day that will probably not go according to plan anyhow… as if weddings ever do! And you are right… it doesn’t make you antisocial. Trust me, no two people are exactly alike. Who cares if its what ‘most’ people do? Who wants to be most people in this world? Most people don’t get noticed. Its the ones who do things differently that stand out and get remembered for it.
♥Rαvєr♥ wrote:
Kinda sounds normal… I mean are you just being antisocial. Do you hate being around people or do you like being around people as long as you are in watching tv or whatever?
Its def somewhat antisocial,I hat that streak in me for sure, but its just i dont geton with most of them or i never progress beyond a certain point, what i really hate about socializing and all that is the ego’s people bring with them, its like the earth just opened and they popped out.maybe i’m looking at this too sideways but it drives me mad.Is everyone just acting there way through every social gather to raise there status or is it me.I dont wanna fit that stereotype
I hate stereotypes!!! And I only have 1/2 super close friends as well!! Hahaha, wow you’re like me in male form. Shocking!
its isnt dat abnormal but u shud be at some of d gatherings at time, u just cant put d society out of ur way.maybe u lack confidence or r a bit shy or over cautious abt ur looks or maybe u care a lot abt wat ppl have 2 say or comment abt u and hence u avoid gatherings.being social is necessary coz interaction and public relations play n important role in building out a persons personality.
piinkladiix0 wrote:
lmao HECK no… I hate big crowds. Just hate them. They make me want to hyperventilate. I am Greek so it is kind of hard to explain to my family that I have no intention of having the typical ‘big fat greek wedding’ so to speak. I imagine it’ll be quite a shock to them when the time comes… but they’ll get over it… I hope, haha. No trimmings for me, lol. I’m not that high maintenance. I’d rather spend my money on the honeymoon than one day that will probably not go according to plan anyhow… as if weddings ever do! And you are right… it doesn’t make you antisocial. Trust me, no two people are exactly alike. Who cares if its what ‘most’ people do? Who wants to be most people in this world? Most people don’t get noticed. Its the ones who do things differently that stand out and get remembered for it.
Hyperventilate,woh,deep breaths there greek girl!…Seriously tho i guess big crowds do the same to me too,its sad to say but im only 24 as i mentioned with no plans of marriage but i completelt and utterly dread the thought of the speech at a wedding.not nice feeling even now!
No big greek wedding,your def not the sterotypical greek in that case.your family should be find about it,they may want the big wining and dining but at the end of the day if your with the one you want.Completely agree on them never going to plan.a great long honeymoon would serve a much better purpose,lots of trimming there!(a cruise comes to my mind!)
i think I’m more like you guys i don’t like big parties or else cause it ends up with big group of people talking impressing each other and no body is really listing to anyone.
sometimes you may actually meet someone good ,which is the good thing about big social gathering.
but the question is: do you hate going out cause you have to or cause you just don’t like to?
i mean do you wish you’d be like one of those social people or not?
greycolored wrote:
i think I’m more like you guys i don’t like big parties or else cause it ends up with big group of people talking impressing each other and no body is really listing to anyone.
sometimes you may actually meet someone good ,which is the good thing about big social gathering.
but the question is: do you hate going out cause you have to or cause you just don’t like to?
i mean do you wish you’d be like one of those social people or not?
I agree on you saying people just talking to impress one another,its rubbish isnt it.
Thats a good question too,i think i would like to be one of those really social people in terms of how they carry themselves, but its not really me and i know that for certain, im def more the guy who listens, doesnt try to impress(i think its weak to even if it works to make people respect you) and observes situations(maybe too much so to the point i over-analyse!)
i believe the most important thing is to feel comfortable with yourself as it is.
and i also think I’m not that guy that makes impression to people but I’m just a good one to talk to (i mean as what i think of myself) which is I’m OK with.
piinkladiix0 wrote:
I hate stereotypes!!! And I only have 1/2 super close friends as well!! Hahaha, wow you’re like me in male form. Shocking!
We are v.alike it seems,
Ya its a shame they say opposites attract or i’d be asking for your email address!:)
lol awww, come on its good to have some things in common every once in a while! ;) lol
i used to HATE big social gatherings too. that growing up i fake illness so i won’t go. i prefer coffee with maybe 2 good friends.
but when i started working, i realized i need to go to social gatherings in order to further my career (i’m in marketing and sales). it took a long time and VERY slowly, i started being ok with these big events. honestly even now i’d still prefer to be home watching a dvd. but at least going out isn’t as painful as before.
you said something about hating social interactions and not being good at them. i think the trick is to not think of it as a “game”. just be yourself and think that if they don’t like you then it’s their loss. and don’t be self conscious too much, i mean half the time people are too busy looking at themselves and checking how they look BEFORE they start looking at other people.
best of luck!:)
piinkladiix0 wrote:
lol awww, come on its good to have some things in common every once in a while! ;) lol
True true,once in awhile it may help that people have something in common,****,why is there no private messaing here:(
****, iam exactly like that. I would rather be @ home doing my own crap, watching a movie, surfing the internet, sleeping and just all out relaxing. I cant be bothered making friends and interacting, its just toooo **** boring and annoying. I dont care WTF they have to say, it doesnt effect me in any fuking way.
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