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omg I totally am going through the same thing right now, but I am 20yrs.

old. I keep having those thoughts too. I love my boyfriend and we are in love, but he has dated 2 other girls before me. For me I haven’t really dated anyone just crushes here and there. I understand that you really shouldn’t have these thoughts, I feel horrible for putting my boyfriend in this situation. I just want to make sure I found the one. How do I know things won’t change down the road? I want to be with him so much, but the long distance is hard. He is always working and I in school for my BA. Does anyone have any other advice? My mother and friends keep saying date other people your young, I think that is part of my problem. Everyone is getting in my head and making me feel guilty, “oh you’ll regret it if you settle for the first one. You need to shop around.” My boyfriend is supportive in listening to me talk about my feelings which is amazing, but I know this is taking a toll on him. I know this sounds stupid, I am driving my own self crazy…I keep telling myself stop worrying about the future. Yet, how do I know we will be ok, how do I know he is the right one?

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

First of all you should know this: The person you are now is not the person you will be in 5 years. I would wait until you are at least 25 or older before even worrying about ‘who is the one.’ If this guy is still around then and you are still compatible, fine. Chances are though with a bit of education, life experiences and other changes you’ll find you don’t have as much in common with him 5 years from now as you do now. Especially if he is living elsewhere.

Of course, if you’re foolish and get married now, chances are greater that when you are older you’ll divorce having ‘grown apart.’

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

thanks we thought about waiting to get married around then so basically just live in the moment? If so thanks!!!

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