So make a decision and stop. Not so easy. But when you finally do make a decision to stop. You will find that is really all you need to do to stop—is to decide. It’s getting to the point of making that decision.
Honestly, my opinion is that Much more is going on than a simple rejection from a girl. It’s much more.
What is the cutting doing for you? What do you get out of it. Maybe at that moment you feel so bad about you, you feel like ending it all. Then as you start the deed, you come to terms that you don’t want to die, you are just in so much pain. In your head, heart….You hate your life….Am I close? You just want to stop the pain you are feeling.
Here’s a strategy. At the moment you feel like you want to cut. Become aware of what you are thinking in your head. This is important. Mostly likely, it will be a negative thought about yourself. Become aware…..recognize it…..
now change it….yes, you have the power to change the thought….
Reverse whatever you say to yourself. Say it’s opposite. For example, if you say, I hate my life becomes “I love my life.”
Then go take a run or a walk outside. Keep repeating the reversed sentences. It would be better if you could run. The endorphins that your body releases when you run, will make you feel really good. You have to do the physical behavior with this. You can’t just stop cutting, you have to replace it with something else. You have to find out what it’s doing for you and replace the behavior as well. You are replacing the thoughts, but you are also replacing the behavior.
That is your emergency behavior. Watch your thoughts. Become aware of what you are saying to yourself in your head. Most people don’t realize it, but they are bascially hypnotizing themselves with the thoughts they have in their own head.
The goal, then is to become aware of our thoughts, then consciously change them
to what we actually want in our life….not what we don’t want.
Forget the girl for now. You need to get yourself back onto an emotionally stable ground before entering into relationships anyway.
Long-term. You need to care about you,—you need to love you. You have to get your self-esteem up and do things that make you feel good about you. A simple rejection from a girl should not send you to the depths of I want to die.
Everyday, try to find things that you like about yourself and write them down. No matter how trival you think they are.
The great thing, when you start feeling good about who you are, you will become very attractive to girls. Your self-confidence will be like a magnet to people. Your circumstances will begin to change.
Life is always changing. It is the one thing you can count on.
I hope you will not rule this out. Seriously,,,,catch the thoughts that you are saying to yourself. Anytime you start feeling bad, stop yourself and ask yourself what you were just thinking. Then when you see it was negative, you will begin to understand that you are the ruler of your life. Change those thoughts. Change your life.
Over time, You may also will notice, you will start to change as well. You may “feel” differently and want to do different things than you normally have done. Perfect, do the new things…
I will warn you now. This is not as easy as it seems. The mind loves to think negatively. But show it who is boss. Be persistent.
Fill your mind with who you want to be. Not what you think you are.
Keep in touch.
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