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im 20 yrs old..serving my country in the military..ive

been best friends with this girl mary for 5 yrs and have been in love with her since i met her but never told her..i have recently told her how i felt when i was overseas and she told me she feels the same..we tlk every day being flirty talking about how much we miss each other and jus want to hold each other..when i finally come home she doesnt act as how she told me she felt for me..i just give it time…but before i am about to get sent back over seas i ask her whats up and she tells me she does love me and meant every word and everything she told me but she said when i got home it was different..what should i do now??? will there ever be a chance of her and me together?? i feel shes the only girl for me but i dont know what to do..please help me..open for advice and suggestions..

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katlover1 online Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (39 minutes after post)

sounds like she’s just nervous about it. if she’s telling the truth and really did mean it, then in her heart she loves you but its hard to take that physical step. maybe it seems awkward to her to be actually dating a person she’s been only friends with for so long? it really changes that perspective and might feel weird. its easy to say something online or over a phone, its harder to act it out. try to make the first moves for her, but do it slowly and see where that goes. take her out to dinner, hold her hand, see if she likes those things. maybe she’ll warm up to it and it won’t feel so weird after a while.

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heyhelp1 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (58 minutes after post)

i wish i had time..like i said im getting deployed in two days..and when she told me “its different” i felt horrible and jus told her how bad it hurt me and dont know what to do

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teten_wang offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 3 days ago (3 weeks, 1 day after post)

always watch out caus theres always lot of players in this world that play with your emotions.

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