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Hey, you’re not the only one to feel like this (not personal experience - it’s the same thing I’ve heard from others…almost word for word!)

You know what, if you don’t enjoy constant partying - which let’s face it, gets old anyway - then don’t try to force it upon yourself. You’re not a freak at all ;)

Actually, I would be having major panic attacks if I was in your position haha. Let’s see if this happens to me when I go to uni. Maybe I’ll be posting exactly the same thing on help.com :S

Well, maybe you could try to stick it out till the end of the year. All the drunken party animals may have calmed down a bit more by then. Haha yes, it’s definitely “an experience.” Perhaps you won’t be fazed by such things after having to go through this.

If it is really stressing you out, then moving wouldn’t be such a bad idea. Plus, if you have to live farther away from the lecture buildings, then you’ll get fitter ;)

I would move. What’s the point of trying to “try on” a personality that isn’t your own. It sounds like you know what you want to be doing and it seems completely reasonable to me. I was in the same situation my first semester at college. I was put in the “football” dorm. No sleep, no study time (in the dorm anyway). I finally moved before the end of the semester to a house (shared rental with 3 others and had my own room) Much better to be with more like-minded people…

Haha thanks.
You’re not an “easily stressed out person” - you’re just human. Get well soon!

I think that anonymous could be right. After all, the perks of a flat in a good location and the inconvenience of having to pack your bags takes second place to your sanity.

It’s always good to have options to weigh. Definitely put yourself first. You’ll be happier in the end that you did.

The trouble with moving is that there are no guarantees you will get quieter accommodation on campus.

You most certainly are not a freak. You’d be amazed how many students actually get fed up of all the partying but go along with it because they think they will be thought dull if they don’t! Be brave and be yourself.

That said, make sure you do have a balance. Get out and enjoy yourself once a week. Take time to socialise with people you like, be it at a party, a night at the put or just hanging out in the kitchen with a plate of pasta and a couple of cans.

It’s a good idea to fish around for a “quiet spot” where you can work undisturbed. The library is a good bet and some have private study rooms where you can work with friends on joint projects. Do most of what you need to do there so that when you go back to your room, the worry of “can’t concentrate and have so much to do” is diminished.

If, at the end of the day, living on campus doesn’t suit you then think about going back home if it’s commutable and possible. Just be sure to maintain links so that you can socialize when you want to. Most unis will have an “out-student” support group somewhere. If yours doesn’t you could always set one up.

You might need to find somewhere else to live. Likely some of these partyers will drop out due to partying every night of the week!

itll probably calm down there soon to be honest. its just the nature of first year students, all that freedom goes to their heads and they go mental.
but theyll soon fail their first test, get a kick in the pants and settle down a bit. at least give it a bit more time.

*night at the pub not put! sorry about my typo!