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What do you say to console someone when there is no possibility to reason with them?

I’m not asking for ways to help them see the positive. When they are in the middle of a bad time, their emotions are in control, and WILL NOT see the positive, (and i’ve given up trying to show them), what do you say?

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ZeroSum 11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

I’m here for you.

I keep trying to make them feel better anyway.

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mikem7 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

Thank you.

Well i usually think I am, just by talking to her. But everything she says makes it seems like i’m not making her feel AT ALL better. But that’s probably the right thing to do.

pi #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (17 minutes after post)

Just tell her you’re there for her and you’ll help her in any way if she asks. Take her out for a walk/cinema and do something to take her mind off it, show her some good times, it usually helps

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mikem7 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (18 minutes after post)

I like that idea. She’s very clever though she’ll know my motive. But probably go along with it haha. I used to be concerned about over-investing myself in her, because she’ll never try to pull herself out of her unhappiness. I don’t know if I still am.

grbghp 18 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

remember that often what helps best is just to listen.
with no consoling.

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pi #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

I don’t know, it depends what she’s unhappy about.
I have a friend who always always complains that he’s in love with this girl who only sees him as a friend, he’s whined on about it for 2-3 years now. At first I divulged him and supported his love, then told him he should try moving on as it wasn’t gonna go anywhere, then I resorted to mocking him about it… now I just ignore him when he talks about it. He’s never gonna learn that this girl isn’t into him in that way so I don’t really let him talk about it to me.

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mikem7 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (27 minutes after post)

Oh my gosh pi I identify so strongly with your progression of reactions. It’s like. Talking to wall!

Keckers 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (28 minutes after post)

I don’t usually say anything.
In fact I’d probably fumble around with my words if I open my mouth.
I’m not quite talented in the comfort area.
If there’s anyone upset I just sit next to them in complete silence just basically..being there.

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Cell 60 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 month, 1 week ago (36 minutes after post)

“I’m sorry”

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pi #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (39 minutes after post)

Yes, if it’s like that it’s best not to indulge the person in their broodings, because it’s not really worth you worrying over and maybe one day they’ll realise it’s not worth worrying about either. Just change the subject and do something else.

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Keckers 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (39 minutes after post)

pi wrote:
I don’t know, it depends what she’s unhappy about.
I have a friend who always always complains that he’s in love with this girl who only sees him as a friend, he’s whined on about it for 2-3 years now. At first I divulged him and supported his love, then told him he should try moving on as it wasn’t gonna go anywhere, then I resorted to mocking him about it… now I just ignore him when he talks about it. He’s never gonna learn that this girl isn’t into him in that way so I don’t really let him talk about it to me.

The freaking hell!
YES!
I mean for the love of god man, stop pinninngggg!!
So that makes the 3 of us!
:D

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pi #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (45 minutes after post)

lol, we all must just have one of those friends…. maybe everyone has one
Sometimes I tickle/punch him if he talks about it because it’s just plain annoying, I’m really sick.

Keckers wrote:

pi wrote:
I don’t know, it depends what she’s unhappy about.
I have a friend who always always complains that he’s in love with this girl who only sees him as a friend, he’s whined on about it for 2-3 years now. At first I divulged him and supported his love, then told him he should try moving on as it wasn’t gonna go anywhere, then I resorted to mocking him about it… now I just ignore him when he talks about it. He’s never gonna learn that this girl isn’t into him in that way so I don’t really let him talk about it to me.

The freaking hell!
YES!
I mean for the love of god man, stop pinninngggg!!
So that makes the 3 of us!
:D

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