Is it ever okay for a partner to say this in a marriage?

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Is it ever okay for a partner to say this in a marriage?

“‘Cause I don’t love you, ’cause I don’t give a **** about you, I’ll keep ignoring you…”

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pi #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

I think it depends on the context

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Cell 63 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

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Amethysteria 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

pi wrote:
I think it depends on the context

Give me an example of a context where this would be “okay.”

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mikem7 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

That’s so unfair. That must be so hurtful to hear.

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slimmmerman 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

I don’t understand why so many people stay in loveless marriages?

I have a friend who said to his wife one day “I don’t love you and want to be away from you!” These are the kinds of things that can’t be taken back. You can’t go to someone the next day and tell them that you didn’t mean it.

Its also along those lines of words that hurt more than physical injuries.

It is NEVER ok for someone to say that in a marriage or any kind of relationship. If you don’t have open communication in a relationship then as far as I’m concerened you don’t have a relationship.

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Cell 63 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

Marriage is no only about love. Marriages are about commitment.

Healing can take place in any marriage.

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brown3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

It is never ok. It is mean spirited and hurtful. You deserve better. No one needs to stay in a verbally or otherwise abusive marriage. You wouldn’t tolerate this from a friend, no need to tolerate this in a marriage.

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Cell 63 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

Not tolerating it doesn’t have to mean leaving. Communication is key in a relationship. So is forgiveness.

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courtybubble 194 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (5 hours, 51 minutes after post)

well thats a pretty **** thing to say to the person youre meant to love unconditionally. if it was said in the heat of the moment, then im sure you can probably work past it.
but if its a part of some ongoing cycle of emotional abuse, then i say haul anchor and run like hell.

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caoimhelavell 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 day after post)

He mightened necessarily have meant it. Sometimes if your angry or annoyed, you can take it out on your nearest and dearest by saying something hurtful.

slimmmerman 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 day after post)

To original post;

I realize that nobody ever really gives all the information needed to make a speculated guess at what the real answer to the problem is. But could you please expand on your original post?

How long have you been married?

How long have there been rough waters?

How do you feel about the words used?

Is this common behaviour in this relationship, is there a history of it or is it new?

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