Family help: Stopped talking to my father, need guidance. - Help.com

Send him an email saying, “hi”

i dont know his e-mail address, plus i dont know if i should start talking to him again he was a jerk while he was around do i want to start talking to him again is the question im trying to answer but cant.

Cell wrote:
Send him an email saying, “hi”

Good one.

What people DO support you? Turn to them.

And you can talk to your aunt as long as she understands why you are better off not talking to your father.

When I can afford it, I will sever ties with my father as well, because he never supports me spiritually or emotionally.

Email is much better than in person. Ask your aunt for his email?

You don’t live in Northern Manitoba do you?

My neice is going through the very same thing right now. We are all very worried about her as she seems to be cutting people out of her life.

no i dont…i just cant stop thinking that maybe i did the wrong thing by not talking to him anymore, how can you justify something like this?

Don’t justify. Just change your mind.

okay well i just dont want to change my mind i cant make my mind up, i just dont want to start talking to him again and things be just as bad if not worse. I guess a better question would be how do i know when i should start talking to him again?

If he’s unkind just end a conversation. He needs to be civil with you at the least. If he isn’t just say, “I’m sorry but I don’t feel comfortable with this conversation.” Then end the conversation. (Like hang up or block him for a bit) Dad’s sometimes think that they can get away with being mean or rude. You need to let him know that it is not ok. You do not need to block him out forever to send that message. At least I didn’t. I just had a few screaming melt downs and he cooled his attitude towards me. I’m not a kid anymore and I’m not going to accept being abused verbally.

why do you have to talk to him to talk to your aunt?