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I have fallen in love with the most amazing man I’ve ever met.

I’m nearly 21, as is he. The problem is- my best friend has slept with him a few times. Also, I had the most heart-breaking break up with my boyfriend earlier in the year, however, we still see each other and act like we’re together. The man I’m in love with, he loves me so much. He makes me the happiest I’ve ever been and I want to be with him all the time, and forever. We spent the summer seeing each other a lot. I live with 3 girls that clearly talk about me behind my back (they’re on the same course together) and I don’t know them as well as they know each other. They would make my life hell if I got together with my man properly, and I’ve still got another year to live with them. I would hurt/ anger every single person in my life if we got together. But I’m miserable without him, we never get to see each other anymore because of what might happen if people spot us together. No one knows about us whatsoever. It’s gotten too much for him, and he said he can’t wait anymore because it’s killing him. What do I do?

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amyplende offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Wait for him. If your love really is that deep and strong, it will last a time apart until you have left the house with the three girls. Be less couple-y with your ex-boyfriend – it may seem too painful after the difficult break up to stop all contact, but if you’re truly in love with this new man, then surely you can do without the emotional and physical comfort you get from your ex, which may be confusing you sub-consciously. I’m not saying don’t keep in touch – he could turn into a wonderful friend and keeping talking might make things less awkward if/when anything happens with the new guy – but act like normal friends. Take things slowly with the new guy so you can gauge the reactions of all the people you worry that you would hurt/anger – maybe do things the old fashioned way, like writing long, caring letters so you can get to know him even better without the risk of people seeing and criticizing? Maybe talk about it to your best friend, without naming names, but dropping hints to see how she would feel if anything developed. Give people, and yourself, time to adapt. Don’t let the worry of what people think of you alter your life’s course, but do be sensitive, especially to your best friend. I hope things turn out well.

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holly.t_198 offline Verified User (1 month, 2 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

Thank you so much for your help. It’s really good to get someone elses perspective on it.

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susieatalla offline Verified User (1 month, 2 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

1. ditch your ex
2. ditch your flatmates- no point living with people who make u unhappy
3. be with the man you love

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ℓινιηg4уσυ online Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1,040 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

Ditch your ex.
Wait for the one you love..

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