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How long have you been going out?

Well, here it goes. You asked for it:

When you have found a woman you are interested in keeping, you know it because you’re concerned with things like how long you should wait to call her in addition to the obvious attraction factor. You must work to keep her from moving on, and here are some ways to keep the attraction flowing between the two of you.

Step 1

Be self-confident. Being a secure man boosts her attraction to you as long as you are confident without being egotistical. Women like a man who is confident in himself.

Step 2

Keep her guessing. This helps prevent her from becoming complacent and taking you for granted. Women do not want a man who is at available at their every whim. Pull her in, and then push her away just a little periodically to keep things interesting.

Step 3

Compliment her regularly, but in a way which is not predictable. You want to be careful not to give her the same “you look great today” statement every time you see her because it won’t mean as much to her. Instead, be creative with what you say and how you say it and be sincere.

Step 4

Continue having your own life. Do things with your friends from time to time without her. There are times to include her in doing things with your friends, but a little space will cause a harmonious balance in both of your lives, and your woman will stay interested if you are not clinging to her. This will leave her wanting more, and she will appreciate the time she does have with you.

Step 5

Be an imaginative and romantic lover. Seduce your woman with romantic surprises both small (flowers for no reason) and large (a romantic trip) from time to time.

Step 6

Take care of yourself. Dress, eat and exercise well. Everyone desires to be with someone attractive, and this will help your woman remain attracted to you.

Step 7

Listen to her. Pay attention and ask questions so she feels appreciated. Be aware, women like to vent when discussing troubles and this doesn’t necessarily mean she is looking for advice on what to do. Only offer solutions when she asks.

Tips & Warnings

* Keep your female friends. Your goal here is not to actually flirt with women, but instead just spark a small bit of jealously in her which will keep her wanting you more.

* Give her space to have her own life in addition to you having yours.

* Don’t scare her away by calling too often, not getting off the phone, being needy or expressing your feelings too early in the relationship.

* Be careful not to be a pushover, by being too available or agreeable.