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Absolutly! Everybody needs at least one good friend. ;P

Your problem is that you are afraid of being hurt, afraid of being rejected, afraid of being accepted… I feel your pain. It’s really difficult to open up your shell because of these fears.

But what you don’t understand is that you are already defeating yourself with that attitude. If you never open your shell, most people will never know it IS a shell and that there IS more underneath.

So open up with this special person. I doubt that what you are feeling is love, but more of the fact that you may have finally found your best friend, the first person that you could really open yourself up to.

Go with it…

Don’t know if I can be of much help, but I do know that vitamin B converts food to energy…yeah.

Same here, then one day I bought this chocolate milk drink and it told me everything that I needed to know about Vitamin B. haha

Heyyy i was just like you, but then some people came into my life, and they are my real friends, people that i can be who i want to be around and can get close to because i know they wont judge m eor push me away or vise versa. Sometimes i still get drawn into my shell and just want to be alone, but like you said it isnt alway snice. Some people are naturally independent or more comfortable with being alone, the only thing thats wrong with that is if u dont like it urself. You just need to build trust with someone, and maybe it could be your friend? I think you need to find out if your friend is 100% straight, because if she is i guess that maybe things wouldnt happen between you two, but i think this friendship u have is important and maybe if u recognise that this person is straight (if they are) and so cant be with you, you could conmcentrate on ur friendship, as hard as they may seem at th emoment, in future when u have this friend by ur side, ul be thankful u recognised that ur friendship was truly important, and valued even if it could go no further.

Just stay happy, and if u start to feel lonely, it is u who can solve that, u gotta let people in :)

First, I agree with David. Second, I know how you feel–I used to be very introverted (still am but not nearly as much). I had friends but spent the majority of my time by myself. I got pretty used to being alone a lot, but there were definitely times that I felt lonely (and there’s a difference). Feeling scared of getting hurt is completely understandable and not unjustified (especially if you have been hurt in the past). Keeping to yourself may be the ’safer’ route, but–it also has you writing on help.com. And I DO NOT mean that as a criticism, but you don’t sound happy.

I’m gonna run the risk of sounding corny and insert a quote here that you may have heard but is nonetheless applicable: “To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”

It sounds like you have found a real person whom you can confide in which is amazing in and of itself–you’re more fortunate than many others. If you want to talk about your sexuality, do so with this person. It sounds like he/she is a genuine friend who you can count on–close friends (and fam) are the ones you’re meant to talk with about that stuff.

As Dave said above, attitude is a BIG part of it–if you put off that you want to be alone, people will think you want to be alone. Just try and be as positive as you can. I have to constantly remind myself of this as it does not come naturally, and to be grateful for what I do have–things can ALWAYS be worse (my form of optimism…lol).

If you ever need a random/unknown person to talk to, hit me up. Here are a couple more quotes (I love quotes lol…). “Healthy discontent is the prelude to progress.” & “When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.”

I do like that, too. A lot of time i got a very good friends, and then i drawn into my shell again and not hang out so often with them, and we become not so close this time, so i started searching a friend again, but it’s hard.

A lot of time i do not cherish what i have and wanting to get more, and that’s the reason why i push away my good friends. Now, i try to search a good friend again, but it’ll become weird if we don’t do that naturally, it’s like, “do you wanna be my friend?” and it’s just.. weird, and awkward. So, just let it flow, and.. risk it all.

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