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Ex-Penguin

Random advice.

I was kind of seeing the guy nextdoor and last night he disappeared completely, only to come back the next day in the same clothes and claiming he’d ‘passed out on someone’s kitchen floor.’ Do I trust that?

Well, my instinct was no. We’ve slept together several times, we act like a couple in public and we -know- that we like each other.

We’re both scared of commitment.. I don’t understand why it can’t just stay how it is. But, do I get really drunk tonight (we’re having a massive night out with our housemates) and then ask him wtf is going on, or do I leave him to come back to me.. And if he doesn’t, just move on?

I do really like him, but, obviously, if he’s no longer interested then I guess there’s nothing I can do.

So, should I talk to him about it or just play it totally cool with him? Sorry for the slightly childish emo post, but I figured other people do this so why can’t I. ¬_¬

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linuxya 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

It’s very simple.

Sit down and figure out what you WANT.

Then sit down with him and discuss what you WANT.

If he is on the same page then make a commitment together and move forward.

If all you want is to screw around, then enjoy it. But don’t screw around and then wonder if you can be jealous. That’s just silly. These feelings indicate that the life you are leading is probably not what you want. So it’s up to you to figure out what you want and find someone who wants the same thing.

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Richard Cor de Lyon 20 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

well… ya can’t get much better advice than that. I can’t improve on what Linuxya said… The answers to our issues always start from within.

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Dr. Ralph 75 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Maybe he did get drunk and pass out. Do you have a reason to believe he didn’t? When I was 18-24 I slept on a lot of couches and floors it is much better than a DUI. This is more of a trust issue than a cheating boyfriend issue. Maybe you can ask to meet these friends he is partying with and see exactly what is going on. He could be lying too, how long have you known him and is he trustworthy in every other aspect? Only you can judge and you might be wrong too.

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linuxya 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

If the relationship hasn’t been defined then he’s not accountable for anything. Define the relationship and commit to that definition and you will know what is expected from each of you. As long as it’s vague and loosely defined, then that’s what you get to live with.

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