Give me your best advice for dealing with extreme insecurity about yourself. - Help.com

this sort of insecurity can be handled (and must be handled) in two directions. One is a physical direction, the other is a mental or emotional direction. Even people that get plastic surgery are not always happy with the results, or they almost always find something else to fix. Most of the “fixing” has to be done in your head via the development of your own self esteem. But first what is it that you are unhappy about? Is it possible to change that without plastic surgery? If you are overweight, yes, this can be fixed. So the next step is sit down and make a plan to get from point A to point B. Your self esteem begins to improve way before you reach your mark if you are following your plan and meeting with successes according to the goals you set for yourself. You can do this… you just really need to start.

I lost four stone and I’ve never been happier. Everytime I weigh myself I’ve usually lost, and it gives a real thrill. I’m underweight though, so it’s not massively healthy, and you just end up obsessing over food instead of over yourself…

I think the easiest thing to start with is to transfer your anxieties into more manageable channels.

How to Stop Being Insecure
By Laura Catella
a wikihow contributor.

A small amount of insecurity is quite normal, it is in fact healthy, because it shows a keen sense of social awareness and responsibility. Insecurity turns problematic when we use it as a scapegoat for our actions, when we feel powerless over our current situation, and when we feel like nothing will change our current situation.

Step 1

When letting your mind run wild with excuses and depressed thoughts, simply repeat to yourself “I do not believe my thoughts.” Life coaches give this advice to people all of the time, because insecurity is not REAL or tangible, you can’t touch it, or give it to someone, it is a product only if your own mind. Therefore, simply tell yourself, “I do not believe my thoughts.” Take deep, serious looks at the physical and tangible world around you — see insecurity anywhere? You may as well be fearing a hot pink, furry boogie man hovering in the corner in your room ready to attack you. Both are fears of the MIND.

Step 2

Pretend to be someone new if you’re lucky enough to meet a casual acquaintance. This is a great exercise. Even if you’re in a situation where you normally wouldn’t meet anyone new, talking to a stranger is a key in and of itself to fight insecurity. But if you’re out at a bar or club with friends and meet someone, be somebody completely different. Tell them you have a different job, name, familial situation, educational background, be as creative as you can. Why is this helpful? First of all, it’s fun as hell, and secondly, you’ll find that when you are pretending to be someone else, you don’t feel insecure! The mentality develops, “I don’t have anything to lose because this person doesn’t know me at all!” What to take away from this exercise and to remember later on is, you NEVER have anything to lose! You can be YOURSELF and have all of the fun, positive feelings you generate when being someone else. This is an exercise to show you that insecurity is product of your own mind, caused by feelings of inferiority, these go away when you’re pretending to be someone else, and that should help you realize that such feelings should not be there in the first place!

Step 3

After having fun and being someone else for a while, have that same positive attitude when introducing your true self to people, and combine that with reassuring yourself that insecurity is only an illusion of your mind.

Step 4

Here is a rule you must always follow when stopping your insecurity and taking charge of your own life. Never compare yourself to anyone else. If you see a beautiful thin woman in the street, do not look at her and immediately jump to “I am not like that. I am different. Why am I like that? I wish I were like that.” First of all, pining in your head is never going to make you like that - so again, tell yourself, “I do not believe my thoughts.”

One last tip:

* Talk openly about your feelings to supportive friends, and LISTEN INTENSELY when they tell you that you shouldn’t feel that way. They are your friends for a reason, and if people choose to be your friend it shows you have some great qualities

Then only you and you alone will have to figure it out. You want more tips?

How to Stop Being Insecure, and Just Love You

With so many girls and guys out there who just don’t love themselves for who they really are, this is sure to help. Learn how to kick insecurities and live in total happiness.

1. Think of something good about yourself. Be it your stunning eyes or your arched feet that make it easy to run.

2. Now, focus on that. “My eyes are great. I’m glad I have these eyes! It’s a blessing to have these eyes.”.

3. Do not boast or brag about it, just think of it.

4. Wear a special item that gives you hope. It could be a bracelet or a pair of red socks. When you are feeling insecure, look at that.

5. Study yourself in the mirror. Look at yourself. You are a beautiful person.

6. Do something you love.

Also try this, it has helped me immensely:

http://www.vitalaffirmations.com/