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It’s only habit.
When you get in the habit of thinking negatively, you concentrate on everything that justifies your negative thinking.
What you have to do is change your habit so you concentrate on positive things.
I found something very interesting that helped me with this.
During my dating experiences, I started keeping a dating journal. I kept it up during my relationship. I forced myself to outline everything that happened while with the girl. This forced me to include all the good things we did as well as any issues that came up. I realized that I habitually forget good things and remembered the bad ones.
Through keeping the journal, I started shifting my thinking over the months becoming a more positive person. I started jotting down in the journal all the positive things that occurred to me.
Try this out. Create a new habit! You will enjoy remembering all the good stuff and surprise yourself and you will work to create more good stuff so you can record it.
I tried thinking back to old girlfriends then all i do is remember a good day out with them then remember ruining it later or stupid things that happend when going out with them and then it circles on again i think that for every good thing i’ve done i’ve ruined it
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1 month, 2 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)
Hey do exactly the same thing in my head…. have whole arguements with myself…. playing out every scenerio possible…. and the last time i looked in the mirror i didn’t see some mad wild eyed person looking back…. It’s normal!
when i look in the mirror i hate myself then i insult myself, i went through a phase of cutting myself infront of the mirror and i don’t know why i spent a whole summer inside cutting i don’t call that normal would you?
Like I said, it’s just a HABIT.
You can CHANGE your old habit to a new habit.
Right now you are in a cycle of negative self-talk. If you start concentrating you will probably realize you are constantly talking yourself down, criticizing yourself, thinking others see, think and say bad things about you.
It’s all in your head. None of it is real. Which means you can change it with practice. You’ll find yourself feeling much lighter and more optimistic when you change those habits. You will feel more free to be yourself and you will be more accepting of others because you won’t constantly be criticizing yourself, justifying yourself to yourself, and applying the same harshness to others just to feel better.
I understand what you’re saying but this is a long lasting habit thats going to be hard to break like biting my nails and i know these problems are stupid and pathetic to people but i just needed to get it out there.
well it depends. if the things that keep plaguing you are recent events then its gonna take some time to get over it. i did some awful things and went through the lowest point of my life about a month ago. thats when it ended and everything has been just perfect since then. but every now and then, earlier today actually, it comes to mind. at school today i started to think about my whole previous situation, about the things i did, what happened as a result, and just how awfully depressed i was feeling. i found myself just feeling regrets, shame, and just being mad at myself for what i did. but today was the first time id thought about in a while. you can never completely forget things. but eventually, some things take longer than others, youll get over it. you might just have a bad habit of dwelling on past mistakes/issues. or you could be feeling sad, regretful, ect. about things. if so, make peace with your past and move forward. try to start focussing on the good and dont let your past bring you down. everyone has bad memories but you cant let them keep you from living.
It’s not stupid and pathetic. Everybody has the same problem.
But the way you change habits is by taking action every day, not by beating yourself up. The sooner you work at changing the habits, the sooner you can congratulate yourself every time you stop a negative thought and replace it with something positive.
If there’s not enough positive stuff in your life, then it’s up to you to start creating positive things to be proud of: volunteering, setting and reaching exercise goals, smiling at people, helping others, etc.
Build the new, positive you with your own actions.
no! NO! stop beating your self up ! stop denying what something is trying to tell you that you constantly avoid….this involves releasing antiparticles called “miasms” from your body. We all have “miasms” in our bodies we must release. these are etheric masses that hold memory of genetic or past life disease patterns; memory of present-life diseases that were not cleared due to vaccinations, which prevented you from manifesting the disease memory and erasing it; or memory of disease that you drove deeply into your bodies by taking antibiotics,chemicals, or radiation when your body actually wanted to heal by means of its own immune system or by letting go into total healing by dying.when you start to feel negative and wanting to commit suicide you are creating dark matter inside your body which is cancerous…miasms are karma that must be released..or you will only feel worse. you must deep breath relax meditate eat healthier be more conscious of your body and your thoughts and the people you are affecting around you…you are not alone friend.take control of your emotions, stop giving into the devil, and thoes evil thoughts, you must reach deep inside yourself and look with more clarity… you need to opn up and release what you constantly run from smell some lavendar , read more spiritual books, go to the forest and find your self before you self destruct, dont be tricked, you are amazing, do not give up , be strong, be positive, love light 3
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1 month, 1 week ago (4 days, 9 hours after post)
hey just want to let you know that i care. also, god loves you so much that even if you hate yourself, he gave his only son for you. he loves you as much as he loves everyone else when we were still sinners. he loves you so.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-rW52…
i am going through the exact same thing. something that ive always done. Self pity, Martyr syndrome; a lot of people close to me who have tried to help me rationalise my thoughts have labelled me to have. Indeed, to some extent that is true. Its part of my nature to search for nurture and sympathy. But, in this case, an instance that happened over a year and a half ago still affects me and creates negative thoughts of other things. Im not writing here to give you advice, because in actual fact I was on here looking for the advice you also search for. I understand your situation. Maturity has so much to do with it, I know that I am being pathetic, not in the thoughts but in the constant negative put down of any positive counter arguement. for instance, i was doing the same thing as you reading through these posts. Notice how everyone of your replies have been totally negative. Unaccepting.. dismissive? you do need to break that cycle. and habit is the ultimate reason for it. You are a rational person. the fact that your on here depicts that. so you know that what you do is wrong. I suffer from ocd also, which makes me constantly obsess over these things.. and well. tbh i do the EXACT same thing as you. I have an inner monologue of trying to reassure myself of things, even though Ive been thru it before, its like i need it to be wholely reassured again! its horrible. Its a cycle. so it can be broken. negativity can always be dealt with. remember that. nothing is too overbearing or too upsetting. there is always something to make amends or make you get through it. so dont give up on believing you will be ok or of positive things.
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