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I will pray 4 u and your dad hun.
Get him some antimfamotory cream if u havent already. My neck n back r out so much I go to the chiropractor once a week.
When he builds muscle to support his back he will feel a lot better.
My granny had back surgery, as did my mum many years ago. Things are even better in that department now. I believe your dad will get a lot of relief from the operation.
Thinking of u.
Axo

I will definitely be praying for your father. I’m very sorry to hear about the state that your father is in. I know what it’s like to be taking pain killer and the affect that they have on you in your everyday life. If he has the sleeping pills and the pain killers be sure to stress to him that it can make him very sick also not a good combo because mixing those two things can be deadly. Make sure you let him know that it is deadly to take the pain killers and sleeping pills together, I don’t want anything to happen to him. Your father and you will be in my prayers.

Awwww I”m sorry Amanda :( That’s rough! I hope he gets better soon!

Willard, my mother has had surgeries on the disk in her back. Once she fell off a roof and landed on her feet and it crushed some disk. Then later she was in a car accident re-injured her back. A few years ago the doctor said she had degenerative disc disease from the previous injuries.

She still has some back pain, but nothing that keeps her down and out. I think your dad is going to be okay. Yes he is going to have pain, but death is not knocking at his door. I think what he needs is some flowers to tell him you love him. That will brighten up his house and bring him some sunshine.

His outlook is probably down right now. When you are dealing with pain, not working and having a hard time, you start to feel down, and that makes every thing else seem worse. So find small things you can do to help him have a positive outlook. Don’t let him have his consume him. Send him cards that are bright and cheery. Call him once a day and don’t ask how are you feeling. Just tell him good and wonderful things. Ask him to open the blinds and let some sun into his house.

I remember when my mother-in-law was ill, going into the house was so depressing. It was so dark. She wouldn’t let my husband let the light in. (she was in Arizona and was trying to prevent the heat from coming in the house) which is understandable, but then you also prevent the benefit that the sun gives too.

Do you have any friends or family that live close to him? See if someone will stop by and visit him. Little things like a hug can help tones.

Remember, worrying does not good. It does not help in any way. So don’t do it.

~willard~ wrote:
Thanks Nat and Babacup… i dont know what to say right now… sorry

no problem :) life is hard sometimes. just talk to us and your bf when you need to, try not to think about it too too much (you’ll go crazy!) and call your dad and send him little presents or cards, pics etc :)

Well I don’t know if this is helpful or not so sorry if it comes across wrong…

With every surgery anyone could have there is always a significant risk of fatality, from all sorts of factors. But a good surgeon is aware of all of these and there are people and proceedures in place to stop any bad things from happening.

If the hospital wants to operate, they obviously have faith this could work. The drs will have more interest in giving your dad a good quality of life, if the risks outweigh the positive they wouldn’t do it.

Lets hope it doesn’t come to that, but don’t worry - all these options your dad has been offered are the best thing for him. Its all scary because its very real and very intimidating. Your dads not a doctor so he doesn’t know how or why these things will help, so of course he is going to feel scared. Just trust in the medical system, talk to your dad on the phone as much as you can. Have you been able to see him yet?

Love you hun, you’ll be ok xx

I’m glad you at least know what’s wrong now, and that there’s a treatment plan. You and your dad will be in my thoughts and prayers willard.

Just make sure you keep comming back when you need us, we will never go away! We are here for you, sounds like you are doing the right thing with regards to the time off.

Chin up :) xx