Money help: I have been trying my best but am still falling behind.

yellowr0se291

I have been trying my best but am still falling behind.

It started after my first 2 miscarriages when I decided to finish my Bachelor’s Degree. Shortly after I started classes I became pregnant (I already have a 15 yo at home). I delivered a healthy baby boy in 2006. I had to change jobs to facilitate day care hours and ended up taking a pay cut. Then I lost my job and was unemployed for over a year. My husband and I were offered an opportunity to work from home and were led to believe that it would be easy to make money. It is a legitimate business in promotional products (T-shirts, pens, mugs, etc) and we thought we’d make at least enough to pay the business loan, but it hasn’t worked that way. We hit obstacles all the time like people wanting us to bid for the lowest cost, people just looking for cheap stuff, and those who go through Corporate for everything. We cannot seem to get any major clients to cover the cost of the loan. I had to put my student loans on deferrment and the credit cards are creeping up. I finally found a good paying job and will get a promotion soon, but after the mortgage, daycare, and business loan, I have almost nothing left. To make matters worse, after another miscarriage I found that I am pregnant again. We have no money for another daycare cost and I am scared to death. We have managed to hold on but I don’t know how much longer I can. I know the stress and depression cannot be good for the baby.

We are not looking for a handout (although we wouldn’t turn one down) but are looking for help with the business.

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Please help! I feel like I am drwoning.

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kdewroses 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

HAVE YOU NEVER HEARD OF CONDOMS OR BIRTH CONTROL??? ARE YOU MENTALLY STABLE??? Use your brain. If you cant afford to pay daycare costs or your other debts, don’t bring another child into the world. Maybe you should look into putting the next child up for adoption so that baby can have a better life than what you could offer. If you’re struggling to survive, how will your child live?

Maybe you’re not in the right line of work or maybe get a second job for more income.

I just don’t think that lifestyle is fair nor suitable for a little one to be living in. You should have taken better precautions

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (50 minutes after post)

That is real easy for you to say. I bet you have never tried or even wanted to have kids only to be devestated by a miscarriage. I hope that you never have to feel that pain and hurt.

So far we have been able to pay our debts and we will find a way to care for and love this child. I have seen too many people who couldn’t care less about the lives that they bring into this world.

I happen to be quite mentally stable with a good job that helps others as best I can. I work at a children’s abuse hotline and I hear story after story of parents who physically, mentally and sexually abuse their kids because they couldn’t care less. I love this child, it is a gift from God and I will not risk giving it up only to fall into the hands of someone who appears to be as uncaring and cold as you.

If everyone used “protection” and waited until they felt they could properly care for and afford a child, then there would be no children. How dare you judge anyone to be unfit.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 7 minutes after post)

“but after the mortgage, daycare, and business loan, I have almost nothing left. To make matters worse, after another miscarriage I found that I am pregnant again.”

You said it yourself: “I have almost nothing left” “To make matters worse… I found that I am pregnant again”

Everyone is going to judge everybody. You should expect to hear from judgmental people especially when you post what you just said on a public website.

Sorry I sound so harsh and that’s aweful that you’re going though all of that, but the way you describe what you and you’re family are going through doesnt sound fair for a baby. But nowhere in your post did you sound like you were happy or excited about your new addition, you sounded sad and upset about it…

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 38 minutes after post)

My worries revolve around the flailing business and not the fact that I am pregnant. After 3 miscarriages I am thrilled to be pregnant again. I have two wonderful sons and hope for a daughter, but will love another son just as much. If you really read my post you should have understood that it is my love for my children and the hope and struggle to provide a better life for them that drives my need for help. We will make it one way or the other. You have no idea what we have to offer and to even suggest that it is not fair to bring this gift into the world is cruel.

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1 month, 1 week ago (9 hours, 20 minutes after post)

You’re right. And I posted that other comment as Anonymous in hopes of ending the conversation with you for the night. My problem isn’t not you but my own family and Im sorry I blasted you like that, it was messed up. Im not going to post anything else and Im going to leave you alone from now on.

Im sorry. Good luck with your future and I wish you the best of luck with your family and success in your business.

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