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Wether you decide to follow helpbots advice or not is completely up to you. But I think you should talk to a therapist or someone in training before you decide to do anything. It never hurts to spend some time learning to think about things from a different perspective. And if it could improve your quality of life then I think that would be worthwhile to you.

Were you willing to open yourself up to it, or did you just consider it a waste of your time? Nothing will change unless you, yourself want it too and are willing to help it move in the direction you hope for.

Anyone going to say it or will I?

Sort yourself out.

Self pity isn’t going to solve anything. Niether will killing yourself. You’re never going to make friends if you’re so morbid. You seem to have given up, and if you do that, you’ve lost already. You need to find people you have something in common with - a sport or a hobby - and make friends through that. If you got bullied, chances are it’s because you were different. Do you dress differently, or act or look different to others? Do you think it’s something negative that you could change?

Finally - stand up for yourself. Say “I’m going to change because *I* want to. Don’t wait for the change to happen by miracle.

~Simba

When you went through therapy, did you listen or participate? Did you try to see things differently or did you already have your mind made up that no one cares and no one can help? When you already have your mind made up that no one can help then you will turn away from every suggestion that is made. You hurt, I can see that. There is nothing wrong with that. Men cry, it’s a human emotion not just one for women and weak people. We all hurt in one way or another. There is no shame in that. You are “crying out for help” and I suggest that you keep trying. Every person has something to offer this world. Maybe you could try to help others. Do some volunteer work, see the smiles that you can create in others and maybe you will see that you are worth something in this life. Don’t fill your soul with sad or depressing thoughts. Give yourself purpose and you will see those feelings come back. Find something nice to say about yourself every day in the mirror. Even if you may not believe it at first - Fake it. Everything thought you have tends to become self-fulfilling. If all you see is negative, pain, weakness, death, then that is all that you will attract. Keep positive. I know it is hard, but keep positive and don’t give up.

I think you maybe need to get some confidence and discipline in your life. Height is no excuse for getting beat on. Take a self-defense class of some kind. Relieve the stress by working out while at the same time building up your confidence by knowing that you can defend yourself.

I am only 5′6″ and I have been in tons of fights. Never once lost. But I also had karate lessons of 3 years, and wrestling for 6 years.

Once you know how to handle yourself and can. The whole world may change with perspective.

As for alcohol that is never the solution. But if all you want is a pity party, party of 1 go for it.