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i need a opinion ..as you know i play hockey .

And my coaches asked if i could help a bantam A team . they already have a goalie but they would like me too play goalie on there team to make the team better.To add to this i am a 15 year old girl and they want me to play with boys that r 14 and 15 as well .I have played with tis other goalie before and took most of his playing time away because i was the better goalie.He didnt seem to mind . But this team they want me to play for has boys i never really met before.So i dont know how they would react since i am girl and i didnt even have to try out to play for the team .But i do know couple of the boys but they were the ones on my past team that i really didnt talk to so i am not sure how they would react as well.When i meet them what should i do to try to get them to treat me like a team member ?Plus my other team might not be happy with my decsion to play for 2 teams so how could i explain to them wth out getting them mad?SHould i go play for this new team? i do deserve it and i know i am good enough but how can i get them to look past the fact i am the girl on the team .I have played with many guys over teh years but i really knew those guys and they dont know me .

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The1andOnly offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Toronto, ON, CA | 1 month, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

If you are good, then you shouldn’t have to worry about your first team being angry, as long as you can make all the games still and keep your commitment to them. Being a hockey player i have seen this before. The other goalie may not seem upset about not getting the same amount of ice time, so what i would do is confront your coach and say, i really want to be on this team, but only if ice time is given equally to each of us. Maybe even say it infront of the team during practice or the dressin room so they can see that your not trying to take away anything from the other goalie. And to be accepted by the team, all you can do is play your best, play hard and you will earn the respect from the players by winning them games :) hope this helps

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smartikles31 offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

thanks The1andonly. what u said makes me feel better.if i was the other goalie i would be mad but he seems to be the type of player that doesnt really care. but i will takeyour advice and talk to my coach .Hopefully when i meet them they dont completly ignore me.i will make sure i play hard so mybe they will treat me like part of the team.It is hard coming from a different organization where i knew everybody and had really close team mates that didnt care that i was a girl . to this organization since last year when it felt at first they did not want to welcome me to the team . and oncew i got use to them the season was over and now once again i hve to fight for my place on the team .at least one kid on teh team i know i can talk to .

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The1andOnly offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Toronto, ON, CA | 1 month, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

eventually you will gain there trust and acceptance by proving yourself a valuable asset to the organization, just play as hard as you always do and soon enough they will see that your an essential element of the team and without they would suck aha. If they dont realize it that quickly just casually talk to them during the game, cheer them on praise good plays and what not, its always nice to hear positive remarks from teammates which will also get them to play harder to earn your respect as well

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smartikles31 offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

yes that is ture. thanks again for your help. i should probably go get my gear in my bag cause i have hockey tonight .and i dotn want to forget something. cause hockey practice is like a hour away . my dad is crazy and lieks to travel andfor me to play in the best areas .

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