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me and my boyfriend were together for around 4-5 months

we were very in love but i often took him for granted and i ended up finishing things over a stupid argument. We broke up for 3 weeks but within this time we still saw alot of each other and spoke everyday, it was not really what youd call a real seperation. Within this time he told me he loved me ect but he was sick of the way i tret him, i showed him i had changed and dident see anyone else.. Although in this time he did meet someone else, he told me they were friends ect but recently i found out they were not just friends and had been seeing alot of each other. In those 3 weeks he lied ALOT about alot of diffrent things, now he wants to be back together, tells me he loves me ect and no one else.. i do not doubt that he loves me but i feel so betrayed. Although she knows we are back together and he has told her him and her are just friends she still texts him ect and he see’s her occasionally because she is friends with his friends. I love him alot and would love things to work but i feel there is always going to be arguments about her? and now i feel i carnt trust him at all.. i dont know what to do? do i let him go? and if so how do i go about it? no contact at all or? im just so confused someone please help.

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sonnywallin offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

if you love himit willwork it self out and if he loves you he will let the other girl go

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cfreemantrack offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Phoenix, AZ, US | 1 month, 1 week ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

This is a sticky situation.. A lot can be going on that you may not know about or maybe he is telling you the honest truth. Don’t be naive. He could like this girl. If this guy likes you enough, he wont want to see this girl. It’s not like they have been long term friends or that they’ve always been this close… Even then, I wouldn’t be okay with them hanging out one on one and texting all the time. I have a very close guy friend and we only text when we need to. You said it yourself, he’s been lying to you. Any lie you caught him in has probably been half of the truth. Be careful, but to be honest… 5 months in and you are questioning things? Why do you love him? Does he treat you the way you want to be treated? I’m just trying to get you to think. Good luck!

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fbu offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (16 hours, 25 minutes after post)

thanks for the replys.. they helped alot and made me think and yes he lies and only tells me half the truth he will say for example he is just with a few friends having a drink, this would be true but he fails to mention she is there ect. The only thing i dont understand is that i have tried to let him go alot and he still begs for us to try things and he loves me i dont understand why if he lies to me so much and seems to want this other girl he still is very clear on the fact he loves me and wont let me go?
Last night he was supposed to come see me, he never showed up no call to say he couldent, nothing. So i text him saying baisicly bye! This morning he texts me saying hes sorry he did this and that his cell went dead ect. i havent text back i think he needs to understand i am not going to always be there when he needs me, i am going to ignore him now and show him he has lost me, who knows i might meet someone else too! ha, right dision you think or ?

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