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i don’t know what to do.

i’m currently in high school, and everything is pretty much perfect. i have good grades, teachers like me, i get along with my parents, i have nice friends. but i feel so stressed. i’m in marching band, 3 community service clubs, volunteer at the hospital every week, play piano, and also study chinese at home with my mom. i’m almost after school every day for club meetings or rehearsal or extra credit/ hw for my classes. i don’t even sleep that late, usually around 11. almost every weekend, i have a test, or event to go to for a club, or even a party. i don’t even want to go to parties anymore because i’m so tired. my friends say i should take a break, but i can’t find the time for it. i barely have time to practice piano or learn chinese, two things i actually enjoy. every time we have no school, i pile a whole bunch of work on myself, and try to do everything i can’t do when there is school.
i’m also trying to study for the SAt/ACT but i just can’t fit it in.
i think i can manage it right now, but i just dont have energy for it.
i think part of my reason is OCD. i have to do everything how i like it. i plan my days out, like what i do every hour. and usually i accomplish what i want.
i often get up at 1 in the morning and get dressed, thinking i’ll be late for rehearsal or school.
my grandpa is also here, and i feel bad because my parents and i aren’t home the whole day, so i try my best to spend time with him.
and then i found out that my mom is pregnant. as if i dont have enough to worry about. she’s always so tired and complains she wants to throw up. last time she was pregnant she had a miscarriage so i can’t help but worry.

AHHHHH. i’m so stressed.
how do i make time to relax??

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wildbynit offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

prioritise. you simply cannot do everything. Think, what is the most important thing to you? put maximum effort into that and then space your time and energy over the other things. Don’t let others sway you. Follow your heart. Good luck!

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Dr. Ralph online Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 70 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (21 minutes after post)

Plan an hour or two for a nap or time with grandpa when you get home from school. If you plan every hour just start planning “me” time…

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Soldier 4 you offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (31 minutes after post)

Dude youre just like me, lol. Its just the way we are we must always be doing something productive and if were not we become stressed. Wait till you get to college it gets worse lol. What ive learned to do to chill me out is paint (digitally or with a canvas) it feels productive but youre just really enjoying it.

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vivzofwale offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (59 minutes after post)

you have to give up one or two activities that you have right now. i appreciate that you like spending time with your grandfather and i realize that you have OCD too and everything has to be perfect. these two things cannot be changed (esp. about your grandpa, it shouldn’t be). so the best scenario for me is to FREE UP some time, not FIND some time.:)

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Helper626 offline Verified User (1 month, 2 weeks) Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (5 days, 16 hours after post)

Do things you like. You said you like to learn chinese and piano make more time for that. get rid of all the stuff your doing just to do it. or extra credit cause your grades are fantastic you don’t need it lol. make things for more things you love and you’ll find out it doesn’t matter how stressed tings get you’ll be doing the things y love to do. if you only like piano and chinese instead of only a hour a day do two hours a day spend som time with grandpa. doing things you want and like to do will make one heck of a difference in not only your joy but your energy. Get rid of everything you don’t like and replace it with new stuff you like.
Good Luck my friend

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