Love help: takeing a long time! - Help.com

It is a time thing…. it does slowly get better…. Your emotions are all over the place and if the break up was a bad one you are going to feel more down than up to start with. How long has it been? With my own last relationship it took me six months to come through the actual break up but a lot longer before i felt i could actually move my life forward.

I’m going to say the following, hopefully somebody will read it:

Depression is never comforting. Depression is the worst kind of enemy you can have in your life. You don’t want it; you don’t need it; you don’t deserve it. Yet, it keeps on wanting you, it keeps on making you think that you need to feel depressed because you think that is how everybody thinks of you anyway.

I have felt such depression in my life. I thought sometimes that it would be better if I was not in this world, but I overcame it. It is a poison that poisons you and sometimes poisons your family, your neighbors, your friends, even acquaintances that barely know you because they don’t know how to deal with it and with you when you are depressed.

For some people, depression it’s fatal. They end up committing suicide or killing others because they want to blame others for their depression and end up hurting innocent people. I have seen firsthand those depressed people who end up exploding like a big volcano spewing boiling lava and decimating everything and everybody on its path.

I never found comfort in my depression. I never wanted to go back nor do I want to go back to it now. Even though, I’ve had lapses, I do not want to be familiar with it ever again. It took me a long time of panic attacks, depression attacks, withdrawals from my family and friends to come to terms that I was the one who was going to have to attack my depression instead of letting it attack me.

It’s no picnic when you have all the curtains in your room closed and do not and cannot leave your house because you don’t want to see the light of day or face people in your life because you think that they are out to get you and don’t understand what you are going through. But it’s not their fault nor is it yours. Is that stupid depression’s fault. Is all those days when you don’t even want to talk to your parents, your children, to your brother, to your sister, your teachers, your counselor, when you feel at your worst and think that the abyss that you are facing will never end.

Everybody is a victim of your depression. The sad part is that you are the one with it, you are the one who has to deal with it. Other people want you to be normal and do not understand how debilitating this sickness is. Other people think that you are “faking” it because you don’t want to go to work or school and want to be taken care of by your family. What they don’t know is that depression gets a hold of you and won’t let you go sometimes no matter what you do, what other people do, what everybody tells you and all the things combined that everybody can do.

I do hope that someday you can find comfort in something else other than depression and I do hope that you don’t want to stay in that familiar territory of being depressed all the time. Come out. Because in the end, it’s you against that horrible illness that is depression. Fight as much as you can fight against this horrible illness that afflicts millions and millions of people. Never stop that fight and always stay alive.

God Bless You.

its been around 5 months. from an almost 3 year relationship that ended on bad terms, no cheating or what have u but still ended nastly! thanks for writeing me back! little nick, what u said about it takeing hold of u is very true aswell. and u are write, it affects all my familly and friends to. and im trying to fight it.