marriage help: I have some problems in my marriage that come and go often.

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I have some problems in my marriage that come and go often.

and I discus it with many ppl, when ever I feel bad and some one is available to listen then I tell them. Right now there are about 5 to 6 d/t ppl who know something about my marriage. and I feel so exposed, is it normal to do that? the problem is I cannot trust my husband, we live far away (US and Africa). I am so unhappy,and am not sure what to do. deep inside I believe He lies to me a lot, and I feel like I don’t really know him. the thing is we got married and been apart for so long. when I talk to him on the phone and tell him that I love him, he doesn’t always say he does too. It depends on where he is and with who he is. and I couldn’t get the love and romance I wish to get. even when I am with him. he breaks my heart a lot.

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littlenick 150 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month ago (3 minutes after post)

You sound awfully young. How old are y ou and him?

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I have some problems in my marriage that come and go often. and I discus it with many ppl, when ever I feel bad and some one is available to listen then I tell them. Right now there are about 5 to 6 d/t ppl who know something about my marriage. and I feel so exposed. the problem is I cannot trust my husband, we live far away (US and Africa). I am so unhappy,and am not sure what to do. deep inside I believe He lies to me a lot, and I feel like I don’t really know him. the thing is we got married and been apart for so long. when I talk to him on the phone and tell him that I love him, he doesn’t always say he does too. It depends on where he is and with who he is. and I couldn’t get the love and romance I wish to get. even when I am with him. he breaks my heart a lot.

vv_bb 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (11 minutes after post)

I am 25 and he is 32 (I think???)

littlenick 150 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month ago (13 minutes after post)

You don’t know how old your husband is? How long have you been married?

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (15 minutes after post)

sorry but someone has to tell u, there comes a time in life when u just have to “Let Go” its not the same as giving up but this relationship sounds like it taxes u alot, and thats not fair to anyone. think about it. make a decision for u. much much luck.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (26 minutes after post)

OMG am getting replies, thanks a lot.
Yeah it is funny bu am not exactly sure about how old he is, What I see on his documents is he was born in 1977. Been married for about 14 months now, but we got married just 2 weeks before I came to the US on scholarship.

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beatricegalant 29 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (3 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Can’t he come and be with you? You got scholarship and he had to know about it. Yet, you both risked it. You just got married and parted after 2 weeks. There is no bonding moments, etc. young married people do. He is miserable just like you, and he probably feels the same way about you as you do about him. The distance is great but there are so many ways you can communicate with each other. Was he lying before too before you got married or you think he is lying now. It really sounds like you didn’t even know each other when you got married.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (7 hours, 9 minutes after post)

he can’t come his job is there. and he knows abt my scholarship. I guess zas true, we don’t have bonding moments.

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