Money help: This is such a long story, I will try to be brief…husband lost a job after 12 years. - Help.com



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This is such a long story, I will try to be brief…

husband lost a job after 12 years. didn’t want to work for anyone else anymore, spent a year deciding what business he wanted to start. i went back to work during this time, he took over household, kids, finances. after 2 years, he said the money i was making at work didn’t matter anymore, he wanted me to come work with him. showed me there was money in the bank, i thought from his sales. left my job, went to work with him. found out a little at a time about lies and deceit. the money in the bank was from when he cleaned out his 401k, etc… i applied to several jobs, he wouldn’t let me go for interviews. said me getting a job just meant i didn’t support him and on and on. can’t pay the bills, about to lose the house, kids need clothes desperately, electric got shut off last week, (back on now) he refuses to sell the house. i feel alone and have shut myself off from the world and frends. i look forward to sleeping and nothing else. this is the first time i don’t know how to buy groceries. i need some counseling, of course, that costs money. so that’s the shortest (very incomplete) version i can pull off…

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1 month ago (4 minutes after post)

Sounds like a story somewhat all too familiar. Alot of folks are in similar situations right now. I don’t have any instant fix advise. First, go get a job no matter what your husband says and apply for any help that you can get so you can get back on your feet. Pack the kids up and move out to a house you afford to rent or file chapter 13 so that you don’t lose the house (but you have to be able to show you have an income). Ask local churches for help with clothes. Keep your head up and make changes. Best of luck to you.

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spiratec9 offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

One of you needs a job.Both of you should try.

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spiratec9 offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 1 month ago (15 minutes after post)

Do cost cutting measures like get clothes from thrift shops.

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