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Honestly, you deserve better. You love him, but do you think he loves you? Can he if he can cheat and deceive you? Would you be able to do that to him? Find someone who is deserving of your love, who will love you just as much in return. It will hurt as you invested so much, but you are worth so, so much more. Just thank your lucky stars you didn’t get married. Good luck.

I think I was in a similar situation, and I asked myself will things get better ten years from now and realized if I am unhappy with him right now (although I love him with all my heart), I would not be able to make him happy and things would only get worst, because I will lose myself and will not be the same person he fell in love with.

I decided to end our engagement, its very painful and hard, but I have to be realistic if I am unhappy right now, how can things get better in the future?!

Of course, this is my story, but remember you will have to compare which pain you would be able to endure the continuous pain of his lies or with the temporary pain of moving on.

WAKE UP….gosh I wish I could SMACK you right now!!!!! Do you realize what you are saying/asking??? You just wrote it in black and white….he has a wife and children- a wife that he still sees and has a relationship with. WAKE UP, Quit being weak and playing the victim and TAKE THE **** TRASH TO THE ROAD.

What you think you have with him isn’t real, your really need to wake up and move on.

Oh, and another thing….. this guy cheated on his wife and family with you, then cheated on you with who knows how many others….do ya see a pattern here????

Who knows how many other girlfriends he has, The guy is no good- stand up for yourself, quit letting him make you a victim and get rid of him.

Does his wife/child know about you?
If they do not then I think that it would be better if you left him well alone. I know that you love him but he is married with a child. If he cared for you as much as you seem to for him then why hasn’t he split up with his wife not even mentionning the cheating. Nobody should be treated like that.
Also, you think you might be having it hard, what about his wife? And his child? If she knows what’s happening how do you think she feels about it? And if she doesn’t then the man you love is dispicable.
Just try and forget about him a little while, socialise a bit and meet some poople. Do something challenging to take your mind off him. I understand that it would be hard to do but if he cannot face up to having an honest relationship based on TRUST then he’s not worth it.
If you really feel that you have to be with him then I think you should ask to meet his wife. It may help you in making your decision.
I hope it all goes well.