is there something wrong w/ a person who hasnt been in a serious romantic relationship all throughout his/her life? - Help.com

You’re what? 70?

Keckers wrote:
You’re what? 70?

not even half of that. just answer the question no matter how idiotic it may sound! and i am quite serious. or maybe the answer is he/she doesnt just know how to love

its pretty obvious youre still a kid. so no. theres nothing wrong with you.

i have the same question too. and i’m 23 lolz. how old are you?

are you 80??
WTF You sound like A kid..
Its nothing wrong with that.,dud

no i am not a kid. i am an adult. crazy it may sound. i just want to know what the hell is wrong. do i look for perfection/ am i that afraid/ scared or i simply dont know how to love

i am not ugly, they say i can be the most eligible bachelorette, but then, the hell why oh why i havent been in a serious romantic relationship all my life. i have friends, many friends

one question - what does it mean when a person tells u, ur a good friend, but not a good gf?!

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Anonymous wrote:
one question - what does it mean when a person tells u, ur a good friend, but not a good gf?!

it means exactly what it says.

Anonymous wrote:
no i am not a kid. i am an adult. crazy it may sound. i just want to know what the hell is wrong. do i look for perfection/ am i that afraid/ scared or i simply dont know how to love

i am not ugly, they say i can be the most eligible bachelorette, but then, the hell why oh why i havent been in a serious romantic relationship all my life. i have friends, many friends

one question - what does it mean when a person tells u, ur a good friend, but not a good gf?!

Oh then you’ve completely missed the point and been unable to open yourself entirely to this person.
Or maybe you’re icy?
Not sympathetic?
Lacking empathy?
What happened for the person to say something like that?

Why So Steve? wrote:
No, not necessarily. Or equally yes, yes there is. It depends on why: If you never had the time, or you were too focused on your education or career, then no, there is nothing wrong with you. If however you’ve never had a serious relationship because you’ve been killing prostitutes systematically to cleanse the planet of filth for the past 20 years, then yes there may be something wrong with you. Of course even Ted Bundy and Peter Sutcliffe had steady girlfriends. John Wayne Gacy was married and he had violent homosexual tendencies. Maybe you’re more like Jeffrey Dahmer. Could be worse…but I don’t know how.

welcome back steve, still d same old u!

Anonymous wrote:
one question - what does it mean when a person tells u, ur a good friend, but not a good gf?!

a (girl)friend of mine told me that, idk exactly it means

@_@

Well, on a serious note. There is most likely nothing wrong with you. To achieve real love you have to be patient and just wait for it to happen. In my opinion, you can’t go looking for love, it finds you. Don’t rush it, make friends and be active, do new things, join organizations/groups that interest you, help others…..Love will find it’s way.

Being honest, I’d rather I never had/have a serious relationship than had/have a lot of them that always end/ended in pain.

ok point by point
there are men who seem interested in me. but idk, there is no spark! no chemical/physical attraction. and i am such a stubborn person. i like what i like, and dont like what i dont like - at the onset. i am more of a physical beauty - then the inner beauty, until i find something i dont like that makes me disinterested.

i like to chase/ i like challenges. those who fancy me i dont like, those i like dont fancy me. get that

i dont believe in destiny anymore/love finding u. i will just grow old believing in fairy tales, & i dont want that to happen. still in the end, love still sucks!

steve, i dont drink anymore, too bad

The Least Original wrote:
Being honest, I’d rather I never had/have a serious relationship than had/have a lot of them that always end/ended in pain.

i like that. at least i can still start w/ a clean slate
tnx

Why So Steve? wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
steve, i dont drink anymore, too bad

I am almost certain that you drink, even if it’s not alcohol.

I’ll drink with ya.

Anonymous wrote:

Why So Steve? wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
steve, i dont drink anymore, too bad

I am almost certain that you drink, even if it’s not alcohol.

I’ll drink with ya.

ok. i will have my milk then
of human kindness

Anonymous wrote:
ok point by point
there are men who seem interested in me. but idk, there is no spark! no chemical/physical attraction. and i am such a stubborn person. i like what i like, and dont like what i dont like - at the onset. i am more of a physical beauty - then the inner beauty, until i find something i dont like that makes me disinterested.

i like to chase/ i like challenges. those who fancy me i dont like, those i like dont fancy me. get that

i dont believe in destiny anymore/love finding u. i will just grow old believing in fairy tales, & i dont want that to happen. still in the end, love still sucks!

steve, i dont drink anymore, too bad

Well, you sould like a stuck up snob who is to into themselves to appreciate other people for who they are then what you look like when you are with them. You say love sucks, then what the point? Why are you here whining?

uhmn advices pls - sound ones pls

Anonymous wrote:
uhmn advices pls - sound ones pls

No. There’s nothing wrong with anything your life turns out to be.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
ok point by point
there are men who seem interested in me. but idk, there is no spark! no chemical/physical attraction. and i am such a stubborn person. i like what i like, and dont like what i dont like - at the onset. i am more of a physical beauty - then the inner beauty, until i find something i dont like that makes me disinterested.

i like to chase/ i like challenges. those who fancy me i dont like, those i like dont fancy me. get that

i dont believe in destiny anymore/love finding u. i will just grow old believing in fairy tales, & i dont want that to happen. still in the end, love still sucks!

steve, i dont drink anymore, too bad

Well, you sould like a stuck up snob who is to into themselves to appreciate other people for who they are then what you look like when you are with them. You say love sucks, then what the point? Why are you here whining?

mybe ur right. tnx anyway. thats y im asking

Well,
To me it looks like your searching for the right perosn!
All the best!
Thing is to give people a chance since most people arent themselves the first itme you meet them and well, you cant judge a book by its cover!
But, the thing is to make sure you are ready to spend yor life with this person before you can get into anything more than a serious relationship!

ya. agree. at my age i could still be immature and childish. idk, i think i havent grown in the “love” aspect really. thats why i am asking for help. i want to know what to do, or maybe i could do some baby steps, little by little. but i definitely agree that one has to really get to know the other person before anything else =) thanks guys