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My husband suddenly left me 4 months ago.

Come to find out he was seeing my best friend of 15 years. We had only been married just about 2 years. I was 12 weeks pregnant when we stopped living together. I am now 29 weeks pregnant and haven’t heard from my husband or anyone in his family for 3 months. My husband doesn’t call or stop by. He refuses to go to counseling or to cut off communication with her. Since our separation, I have fallen into an awful depression. At this point, I am not sure if I still love him, but I would like to try to see if I do. What can I do to convince him? Also, is it possible his new relationship will last?? My husband has spent thousands of dollars on her since I left, and doesn’t talk to his friends anymore.

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Proff. Vampress ;p offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 36 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (5 minutes after post)

what about the baby?

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Help me with: dudes, its not fair!
Karenn offline Verified User (5 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (6 minutes after post)

say you need money for the baby?

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halloweenqueen online Verified User (1 month, 2 weeks) Shouts: 90 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (16 minutes after post)

The questions you ask in your post are irrelevant: your “husband” AND your former “bf” have shown you who they are. Allow yourself the right to get angry and then move on. See a lawyer. This dufus is responsible for the child you will share. Good luck—and be thankful you found out who you are dealing with. Cut your losses.

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1 month ago (32 minutes after post)

i second halloweenqueen.

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Anonymous #
1 month ago (55 minutes after post)

Focus on yourself and your baby…. Once the baby is born you hit your husband where it hurts… in his wallet….I’m sure you are very confused and hurt at the moment but please don’t waste any more time on him…. he’s not worth it…. The guy is a waste of space…. when he should have been treating you like a princess because you were carrying the most precious thing he could ever have he was cheating on you….. You are strong and you deserve so much better.

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beatricegalant offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 29 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (2 hours, 27 minutes after post)

I agree with all of the above. Find a lawyer. He can’t just disappear when he has responsibility to you and to your child. You can’t get help from here but from a lawyer and from the law.

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