how to stop thinking about what other people think or feel about you and what you do? - Help.com

You can’t stop but you can control it…. I’m ruled by how people perceive me, how they feel about me and what i do… it ruins my life at times…. Apparently i am so keen to please people and want to be liked i take everything to heart…. For me i have to become quite ruthless and selfish…It’s the only way i can manage to get through the day sometimes.

The only opinions that matter should come from those you love or cherish as friends. No one else matters. We are all human and not perfect. I too went through a period of pleasing everyone and then found out that they didn’t think much of me. They thought that I was trying to buy their love or consideration by being so pleasing. Or they thought I was a jerk seeking their advice about my self-worth.

So I reached inside of myself and gathered the strength to confront those who slandered me and found out I didn’t need their opinion. Why was I wasting my time?

Whatever is in your mind’s eye will come back to you. If you want a lot of other peoples opinions about your worth, they will, most of time, find fault with you. So if you want your faults brought out in great numbers, than seek the opinions of others.

I would start to be selective…and reach out to people that have something good to say like mentors.