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I plan to move overseas in five months, to start an adventure.

The thing is, i have a great job at the moment and I don’t want my boss or workmates knowing i’m planning on leaving, as i don’t want life to be difficult at work and i don’t want them to ask questions!

i have been going to classes to learn how to be a teacher of english to speakers of other languages in order to get employment overseas. i feel shady doing it! also, some of my colleagues are on my facebook and I’m worried about my friends putting comments up about missing me or whatever.

it’s an office job, so i don’t talk to my colleagues a huge amount, but still i’m a very honest person and this situation does not sit well with me. what can i do besides what i’m already doing? am i wrong?

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~LazyDaze~ offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 309 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

When are you planning on going?
If it is months away then keep quiet untill it is close enough to not be affected by any bad influences from work.
If you are worried about work friends finding out via FB then just remove them from your FB.

I would probably assume that you are thinking about all the bad possible outcomes from telling people about your plan and that it would not be as bad as you thought once out in the open, I mean they need to know sooner or later.

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beatricegalant offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

What level of ESL course have you completed?

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sue sam offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

so what your saying is you want to start a whole new life, and meet other new people?!
I think it’s a big “kinda exciting” step, why do you want to do it?, have you got sick of your current life?

I don’t think you just can go with out telling anyone, it’s sounds like a movie or something!

but I got excited reading your plan, and to be honest I wish so bad I could do the same!

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Andy Gee offline Verified User (1 month, 3 weeks) Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

My advice is keep it quiet, I moved to the Philippines over a year ago and when people found out at the office it seemed fine but the nearer it got the more the resentment built up, I lost some good friends. Leave it as late as possible and say it’s a bit last minute but I’m leaving you, I’ve given my desicion a lot of thought and this morning my mind was made up once and for all. I’d like to serve my notice… blah blah blah.

BTW The Philippines is a very worthy cause for an aspiring English teacher.

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Anonymous #
1 month, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

Why are you worried that work will become difficult if you tell them? Surely they would be pleased for you… And what if it all goes wrong and you have to come back…. Do you really want your last employer to be giving you a reference that says you left with very little warning…. Be upfront…. Let people be happy for you.

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beatricegalant offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

I agree with the post above me.

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partlythere offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

:D
I love my job, but I’m in my early 20s, single, and I have wanted to travel my entire life, and i want to live my life on the road a bit and really give myself a shock.

I plan to leave in 5 months. I’m going to South Korea. I just did the foundation TESOL course.

yeah, it is very exciting, I’m starting a whole new life, and most importantly, it’s going to be 100 per cent MY life.

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partlythere offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

well, of course i’ll give them at least a few weeks warning. there’s no way i would just leave!

I’m not planning on going until mid march next year. I’m just thinking in terms of making the next five months simple for myself, and not having to talk worry my boss that i’m going to just pick up and leave them without a worker, i guess!!

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beatricegalant offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

Congratulations, and never give up your dreams. You are going to see a new culture, travel, teach and support yourself in such a young age. Any employer should be proud of having such a determined hard working individual. They should know your plan. Be straightforward and don’t be afraid.

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sue sam offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (28 minutes after post)

god!! your so lucky! I wish you the best, you seems like your a good planner and you know exactly what your next move gonna be.

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Anonymous #
1 month, 2 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

But by telling your boss and co workers you intend to leave you aren’t worrying them that you are just going to pick up and leave…. you’re giving them plenty of notice of your plans… so they can find a replacement.

Maybe you are worried that by telling them you will have to go through with it… i don’t mean that in a nasty way….just that we all have dreams and ambitions and we set ourselves targets…. but if we keep them in our heads then we don’t let anyone else down if we don’t achieve them…. maybe part of you is still a little worried that this is just a pipedream and you may not pull it off….. So you don’t want to tell too many people for fear of looking stupid if it doesn’t happen.

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Anonymous #
1 month, 2 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

We all do it… How many of us haven’t let on about sitting your driving test or not been upfront about a job interview…etc etc

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partlythere offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

well, as i said, i’m not going for five months! that’s almost half year. i guess i just dont see any point in telling them yet!! i will certainly tell them about a month before i go, give them plenty of time to look for someone new…

has anyone had a similar experience?

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