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DjinnGi

Please help me!

Yesterday somebody calling themselves charlottepayn replied to one of my posts and seemed to be speaking in the role of my ex boyfriend, saying ‘Hi i miss you….can you come round’ . This account has since been deactivated bcz it wasnt verified, so i have no idea if this person was a stranger who’d mistaken me for someone else, if it was some random idiot just messing with me, or if it was my ex using a fake name to talk to me. This charlottepayn seemed to be a brand new account, location unknown + the user had only responded to 1 post of mine : “My boyfriend and i are ‘on a break’ right now.”‏
Im not bothered if its just some random weirdo- ppl are cruel when they can get away with it, i know that- and ive had somebody on here propositioning me before in reply to a post which must have made me seem extremely vulnerable, but if anyone knows who charlottepayn is, if its you and you just mistook me for someone else, please could you just let me know - Im not angry, i just need to know whats going on- and if it’s you J., you can text me or phone me or email me anytime you want, you dont need to use a fake name to contact me + just because we might start talking again, it doesnt mean that i’ll automatically assume you wanna get back together, so U dont need to be afraid on that score.

Whoever you are, can you let me know as this breakup has affected me very badly, and to get a random message from a mysterious dissapearing user is very distressing and confusing, so, information please - this is not a site to mess with pple’s minds.

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Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

just ignore this person…. just some idiot having a laugh….

DjinnGi 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

easier said than done though isnt it–i realise that its unlikely to be him, but it would set my mind at rest if whoever it was would come clean.

Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

They won’t…. they’ve gone… but if they do come back you are setting yourself up to be got at again… because they know they managed to wind you up the first time… Just put it behind you… it wasn’t your ex…. it was some idiot sat at a computer with a few minutes to waste… they decided to stupid.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

well that could be true, but its all assuption really, i mean everytime someone answers a post anonymously, that could be someone you know too who doesnt want to reveal themselves.

Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

Very true…. i use anon even though i have actually been on this site for a long time…. and i remain anon for one reason…. to prevent an ex of mine ever tracking me down again…. but if you can’t deal with the uncertainity of replies from Anon you shouldn’t be on here…. it will drive you mad.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

like i say, this site is for vulnerable ppl to get help as there are precious few other facilities (nhs etc.) Its not a place for ppl to mess with others or take advantage + if ppl like me start avoiding this site bcz of ppl like that, then they’re just gonna take over + ther will be literally nowhere to go to get help and advice + what will be left over? what will these random idiots make it become?

Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

well don’t let the idiots drive you out…. but this person was an idiot…. and no matter how hard you try and think otherwise it wasn’t your ex…

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

yh i know it prob wasnt him, although i wish it had been. Whatever this was, i can cope with it, its as much about getting to the bottom of the mystery u know? why would someone open up an account just to send a ‘mistaken identity’ message to me? How could someone using a female username mistake me for someone she knew, when i clearly said ‘BOYfreind’ in my post? Idk - ’she?’ was prob under the influence of something + she’s prob alot worse off tham me atm - still, if anyone would like to own up and explain why they wrote those messages, id still appreciate hearing from you

Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

The fact is you want it to be your ex….. nothing to do with someone random idiot contacting you because they had nothing better to do…. You hope and pray your ex is stalking you online and that it was him…. Get over it…. I sound harsh i know…. sorry….. but you obsessing about a guy who isn’t interested is not good for you.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 39 minutes after post)

Which it would be good to know it wasnt him. It would be a help if whoever it was would own up.

Anonymous #
1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 12 minutes after post)

How many times do you need to be told…. IT WAS NOT YOUR EX…. The person it was has gone… long gone…. isn’t going to come on here to admit to being an idiot.

I think you need to go and see someone about your break up….The place you are at at the moment is seriously not healthy.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (2 hours, 24 minutes after post)

But thats the point of this site - its takes 6-9 months to see someone on the NHS, so all ive got is sites like this until then

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