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Can you make someone stop drinking?

Someone who drinks everyday liqour right our of the bottle. Can I change him?

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alex ^3 offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Philadelphia, PA, US | 1 month, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

probably not. there are support groups you can go to for information about this.

but, actually, there’s a fun fiction book by an author with experience dealing with this problem…

buy: “Lucy Sullivan is Getting Married” by Marian Keyes

it’s a cute romance story (very “chick lit”) but the drinking side of the story is deadly serious and seems to be accurate from my limited understanding.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 79 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

One can only quit if they want to. Unless of course they are in jail.

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jzgirl offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

Thanks I have been dealing with this for 3 years now and it does not seem to be getting any better he has been hospitalized 5 times for the damage that drinking is doing to his body!

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Good ole boy offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

Making a grown adult stop their drinking habit seems rather hopeless. It’s like the proverb goes: You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

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jzgirl offline Verified User (4 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

Thanks that is kind of a bummer I have tried pretty much everything to get him to stop but it doesn’t work. Everytime he got out of the hospital I would think okay this is it this time he will stop, however that jis never the case.

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alex ^3 offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Philadelphia, PA, US | 1 month, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

Yeah… I know a random book seems like an odd recommendation… but I really, really recommend that you read Lucy Sullivan. You have to get through a lot to get to the drinking elements - but “Lucy” deals with this issue with her father (as well as her initial refusal to admit to herself that he was even an alcoholic).

Angela’s Ashes is another one… (and another case of a father who drinks) and that’s autobiographical. But I found Angela’s Ashes trying, and I’m a very patient reader.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (17 minutes after post)

I put up with my alcoholic dad for 8 years. Heres my advice:

1. The most important thing you MUST MUST do, is take care of yourself. Don’t take it personally, don’t let it get to you, don’t let it upset you. And if any of these do get to you, focus all your effort into making sure its not.

2. With this Man, you need to be very matter of fact about his situation. Tell him he is an alcoholic, refuse to drink with him or be in the same place as him drinking. Completely reject the side of him that drinks. Eventually with this constant reminder me may realise he has a problem and even learn to accept it and choose to accept help. Then you can be there for him and help him.

There may be a long process, my dad was in recovery for 4 years and still has relapses now. You just have to realise, this isn’t some disease as people like to say to excuse it - its a problem. Just like people who self harm have a problem. Its a coping mechanism that will not work forever, eventually they will come out of it. Just know there will never be a quick fix.

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Help me with: So he’s back to being in full alcoholic mode again.
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1 month, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

An addict of any kind has to want to stop their addiction… and some just never want to stop…. Nothing you do will make him stop…. If he wants to evenually then he will but don’t put your life on hold waiting for him to.

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Anonymous #
1 month, 1 week ago (2 hours, 12 minutes after post)

If he wants your help then you can be there to support him. But if he doesn’t, there’s nothing you can do. Untimatly, he may choose his addiction over you if you try and force help on him.

I lost 2 relatives to alcoholism. And I have a third who is currently sucessfully battling her adiction.

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