I’m 13 years old and I don’t really care anymore. - Help.com

You’re pretty much right on schedule. Your 13 year old body is going through enormous changes and your emotions will be all over the map

Yeah you sound like a typical teenager I’m afraid.

However, by all the things you’ve said up there, you are actually the opposite of what you think. You are really caring, which is why you put on so many acts and so many fronts when your around people. You seem to care more than you think.

Sounds like you need to stop overanalysing things, your 13 not 30. Just enjoy being a child as you say, because you will grow up. Just don’t rush it.

Teenager…. Normal stuff…. Hate my parents, hate my teachers, hate my life…. It will pass.

Ffff….3 or 4 more years you’ll find yourself overly hypersensitive to everone’s feelings.
Them hormones screws with ya.
:D

i don’t know if this (i don’t care) kind of thinking is going to continue after you become an adult, but it’s better not.

cause people who think u care will be very disappointed when they know the opposite and u may loose your friends and family cause of that. well i already lost my best friend cause i wasn’t caring enough about his problem and i kept standing still while he needed me to do something.

try to know why u don’t care is it because you think you won’t make a difference or cause you think it doesn’t worth it or you are just frustrated of life.

i’m just about to be 20 now so i guess i’m not much of an expert to give u advice.

you don’t sound like the average 13 year old to me - you actually sound like a smart one.

points made above were pretty much on the nail. that age is all about changes, hormones, (absence of) feelings etc etc. it will pass. a lot of us have been there, and now we’re somewhere totally different, and usually better - the best thing you can do now (and forever more) is to try to focus on the positive more then on the negative - you create your own world, or at least the way you perceive it.

in the end, you’ll be glad you had your emotions ;)

I partly agree with Dr. Ralph and Raver, but not completely.

I don’t think you’re really considering WHY people care about things when you try not to care too much yourself. Caring comes from appreciation, right? You care about your cats because you understand them on a deeply personal level (and they, in their way, relate to you).

You would never want to care less for your pets, I am sure. So therefore, when you really care about something, you don’t always say “don’t care don’t care.”

Are we agreed, then, that there are some things you want to care about, and others that you don’t?

Now, with people, strong relationships happen when both people understand each other on the level that you understand your pets. That takes time and it’s rare. So it’s not surprising that there’s no one you can really trust. (Being 13 was like that for a lot of us… as Raver said). Right now, it sounds like there’s no one you want to allow to get to know you that well, and vice versa. DO NOT assume that that will always be the case, though. You probably will find people you are about, and 20 years might even change your perspective about kids with cancer :)

I can’t tell you whether or not to get help. I do know that you’re not going to stop analyzing yourself and you’re very bright. So, let’s give you some ammunition. First, you need to know about the Roman Stoics. They were the earliest people to develop a philosophy around emotions. Read about them in Wikipedia and check out Musonius Rufus and Seneca in particular.

Next, you need some science. There’s a good book by a neurologist, Antonio Damasio called “Descartes’ Error: Emotion, Reason, and the Human Brain.” This book might be too advanced for you, but give it a shot.

If you want even more to read, reply to this page! Good luck.

alex ^3 wrote:
I partly agree with Dr. Ralph and Raver, but not completely.

I don’t think you’re really considering WHY people care about things when you try not to care too much yourself. Caring comes from appreciation, right? You care about your cats because you understand them on a deeply personal level (and they, in their way, relate to you).

You would never want to care less for your pets, I am sure. So therefore, when you really care about something, you don’t always say “don’t care don’t care.”

Are we agreed, then, that there are some things you want to care about, and others that you don’t?

Now, with people, strong relationships happen when both people understand each other on the level that you understand your pets. That takes time and it’s rare. So it’s not surprising that there’s no one you can really trust. (Being 13 was like that for a lot of us… as Raver said). Right now, it sounds like there’s no one you want to allow to get to know you that well, and vice versa. DO NOT assume that that will always be the case, though. You probably will find people you are about, and 20 years might even change your perspective about kids with cancer :)

I can’t tell you whether or not to get help. I do know that you’re not going to stop analyzing yourself and you’re very bright. So, let’s give you some ammunition. First, you need to know about the Roman Stoics. They were the earliest people to develop a philosophy around emotions. Read about them in Wikipedia and check out Musonius Rufus and Seneca in particular.

Next, you need some science. There’s a good book by a neurologist, Antonio Damasio called “Descartes’ Error: Emotion, Reason, and the Human Brain.” This book might be too advanced for you, but give it a shot.

If you want even more to read, reply to this page! Good luck.

I think you need to consider the poster is only 13 here !! Thats good advise but for someone a lot older I believe. No offence meant.