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HELP, i think i’m depressed

I’m new to posting on the forum but I just needed anonymous advice. For the past month or so I’ve been feeling really upset about my life. I’ve never taken any medication or seen a therapist but I’m beginning to think maybe it isn’t a bad idea. The whole idea of taking med’s scares me though because I feel like it alters my true self.

death - I was always really close to my mom. Two years ago I found her at her apartment - she had unexpectedly passed away. I think this is when my depression started. I still to this day cry about not having her with me anymore. I realize the pain doesn’t get easier to deal with. Then a month ago, I sat in a hospice with my grandmother for a month as her disease worsened and I watched her pass away.

career - I work really hard at my job and that includes crazy amounts of hours. I’ve invested a lot of money into my education to have this career. After my grandmother passed away, I couldn’t help but think of how she told me that life is really short and that I should just do what makes me happy. I realized now more than ever how I don’t like the career path I’ve chosen. There’s no passion, I don’t find any sort of fullfillment, and because of this, I haven’t really been performing at the level that I should be lately. I’m afraid to quit and seek another career path because of the money I’ve already invested in my education and the tanking economy.

personal life - i’ve been with my significant other for longer than a lot of people have been married. we’ve had our ups and downs but we always somehow made it work. he was laid off a little less than a year ago and since then has had zero motivation to find a job. he has always been really addicted to video games and since he’s been laid off, that consumes ALL OF HIS TIME. he doesn’t even realize I’m home from work sometimes cause he’s playing video games until 4am, sleeping until late morning then playing some more. I don’t even know how we’re in a relationship anymore if there’s no interaction between the two of us… except when I’m nagging him to try to find a job, to spend some time with me and pry himself away from the video games. Instead of trying to compromise, he just gets upset at me and grows resentful. I’ve always been a really hard worker so to me, I can’t understand the state of being he’s in. no goals, no aspirations, nothing.

weight - and lastly, because of all of the above, I’ve been eating a lot more for comfort, and have gained 20 lbs over the past few years. It’s really depressing to not fit in my normal clothes anymore.

Please help…. I just need someone from the outside who doesn’t know me to give advice as to whether i’m DEPRESSED or if anyone in my situation would just consider this sadness because I’m going through a string of not so great events. It used to be that even though all of these things weren’t going so well for me, I could always lean on having my sig. other there for me. And now that he’s not, I just don’t find any joy in life anymore.

I don’t know what to do to “FIX” my life. I just broke up with my boyfriend today because I feel like that’s the only way I can “fix” that part of my life. He isn’t going to change and I’m never going to be okay with the way he is. All I want is to find happiness and peace once more. I don’t want to make any rash decisions in my life running on high emotions so any outside perspective would be greatly appreciated.

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