boyfriend help: I have this crappy situation at home where my sister is always telling lies to my parents and is not working or doing anything in school.

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I have this crappy situation at home where my sister is always telling lies to my parents and is not working or doing anything in school.

My parents get crazy. She’s almost 21 and so am I. Yesterday they wanted to tell her to move out of our house. I just dont know what to do anymore, my parents say its all on me now and i’m the only one she will listen to…It got too much for me and I went to my boyfriends place. I told him about it all and I had to cry with my stupid face :(. but all of a sudden I saw he was sort of crying as well and that makes me feel bad for making him sort of cry… Shouldn’t I have told him?

Lately I am feelling like he’s taking me for granted and doesn’t care anymore. He still has to pay me back for a present we bought together for 1 of his friends and stuff, should I remember him? Anyway, I was kind of surprised by his reaction and I’m always afraid of what he thinks. I’ve been thinking about telling him as well what is bothering me about his behaviour, but seeing his reaction on my other story yesterday I’m wondering if I should, I dont want to hurt him or something…
help me please…
x

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I have this crappy situation at home where my sister is always telling lies to my parents and is not working or doing anything in school. My parents get crazy. She’s almost 21 and so am I. Yesterday they wanted to tell her to move out of our house. It got too much for me and I went to my boyfriends place. I told him about it all and I had to cry with my stupid face :(. but all of a sudden I saw he was sort of crying as well and that makes me feel bad for making him sort of cry… Shouldn’t I have told him?
Lately I am feelling like he’s taking me for granted and doesn’t care anymore. He still has to pay me back for a present we bought together for 1 of his friends and stuff, should I remember him? Anyway, I was kind of surprised by his reaction and I’m always afraid of what he thinks. I’ve been thinking about telling him as well what is bothering me about his behaviour, but seeing his reaction on my other story yesterday I’m wondering if I should, I dont want to hurt him or something…
help me please…
x

Anonymous #
1 month, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

OK. so after reading this twice I think I get the problem. It isn’t the crazy sister, right? Its the boyfriend.

First of all, in terms of the sister and you living at home. It is actually time for you to move out. You’re 21 and time to build a life of your own. I think it would be good for you emotionally.

As for the BF. If you are not happy about an aspect of your relationship, speak up. Why on earth are you afraid of what he thinks. He should be telling you what he thinks otherwise he is not being forthright with you either. It sounds as if you two talk AT one another but not TO one another and need to learn to communicate fully, openly and honestly.

If that turns off the other, then maybe its time to get a new BF along with your new apartment.

Sir Tannen 76 #
Emeryville, CA, US | 1 month, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

I’ve been taken granted for my entire life, if he was crying about a problem you have he probably cares about ya.

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abnormalogic 22 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

SirTannen wrote:
I’ve been taken granted for my entire life, if he was crying about a problem you have he probably cares about ya.

or he is a great big *****

dorky 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (43 minutes after post)

Thank you all for reading this and replying. I’m really feeling bad right now. It’s not only about the boyfriend, but at times I feel bad it’s so important for me that everything is right between us. It has always been about my sister since we were 14 and she started doing bad things and lying to my parents and I. When I tell her she should nog lie she says very mean things to me. I needed to talk to someone and I was kind of scared cause he reacted that way. And I know I need to speak my mind to him about things that I don’t like, cause I feel like i’m the guy in the relationship now, buying more for him and stuff. And you’re right I should move out for myself.. I’m leaving for france for half a year, this will be better for me maybe to think things over. But I want everything to be fine, or over with my boyfriend before I leave.. but I never want to lose him. I feel so jealous all the time. He’s in a band and girls are after him, i get so possesive.
haha, what a rant. thanks for replying again!

vince.sinclai 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (52 minutes after post)

He cries when you have a problem.. Isn’t that a sign that he loves you and cares about you? Perhaps your fear might be a little unfounded. Speak to him and find out whether he really cares about you or not. I’m sure when you find out the truth, it won’t be that bad.

Don’t break a relation based on your own fears. Find out if it is the truth or not. Then decide what you wish to do accordingly.

Take care.

Help me with: 1 year has passed, and it feels like an eternity ago, but the pain is as fresh as ever.

dorky 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

Thank you very much for your reply you seem very intelligent. I know you’re probably right and I never ever want to lose him cause I love him so much, but I think it has to do with my self confidence as well. I get jealous, possesive , but because of being afraid of telling him he doesn’t know. So for me it feels like we’re constantly having troubles and he tells me ‘i’m so happy we never fight and are so happy’. But it’s because I never speak up. But I should speak up :) thanks a lot

nooneknow #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (4 days, 20 hours after post)

Why are YOU still living at your parents house?

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nooneknow #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (4 days, 20 hours after post)

So sorry about that last comment, I just got finished writing an argument in my novel and the anger was still in me. Listen, if you feel your boyfriend’s taking you for granted or taking advantage of you talk to him, and try to sort it out that way. If that doesn’t work break up with him. I know it’s hard but the truth is there are plenty of guys out there who would be the shoulder to cry on without breaking down themselves.

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