life help: how do I tell my parents I need help? - Help.com

what are your parents like?

maybe you can start by telling them that the anti-depressants has not been effective for several months(?) now. and because of that you failed your classes and lost your scholarship. but you’re too afraid and embarrassed to tell them and thought you can handle it on your own. apologize for the lack of communication too, and that you regret not telling them earlier. tell them too that you want to go to community college instead so you can live nearer to them and at the same time will not cost too much money.

how’s that? best of luck dear :) hope you’re feeling better.

Please, please, please speak to your college adviser or go to the advising center first. Explain the situation. Ask for advice. They may have options for you including tutoring and mental health assistance. If you opt to leave then they may even intercede on your behalf with your parents, and might also help you transfer. By creating a record with them, you could possibly then opt to re-enroll at university in 2 years time once you’ve gotten your other issues settled and if you’ve performed well at the community college.

PS - I have a 16 year career in higher ed. This is not unheard of and we used to handle issues like this all the time. Most universities strive to retain and assist their students whenever possible. Resources are available.

it’s probably best to tell them sooner rather than later. Can you email them and let them know you have something to talk to them about? And then speak to them on the phone? Or can you email them and explain how you are feeling? and explain to them how the anxiety has been affecting you? I will be praying for you; that is a hard situation. the following website won’t be able to help you with talking to your parents but may be able to help you with some life/college issues in general everystudent.com …i used to read some of the articles when i was in college, i also dealt with anxiety and depression, it was helpful for me to see a counselor and also to take medicine. i’ll be praying that you will be brave and be able to talk to your parents… i know that is hard! blessings and hope things work out!

There are lots of options at community college, too, and they also offer transfer programs if you decide to return to a university later. They generally also allow you to choose how many classes you want each semester, so you can go at your own pace.
You’ve provided a list of very good reasons to wish to go to a school closer to home(a better social scene more conducive to studying, saving money, wishing to be with your family, less stress). And it’s right to make changes to any situation that makes you unhappy. You’re parents might be more understanding than you expect - I hope for you that they are.

thanks for all the replys.. perhaps I can be able to tell them soon.

If your telling your parents how you feel, well that should be whats most important for them. Not to mention its your life. They do not know how you feel or whats going on in that head of yours. Only you can control your future. Sure they might be upset about the money they lost but they will be happy that you got out of a situation thats making you uncomfortable and be proud of you that you know what you wnat and your going after it. There are a million ways in this world to get to where you want to go. Find which one best fits you and take that path.
Good Luck my friend