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This is absolutely rediculous…

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I think relationships are dumb for highschool, and espeically the ones that become so serious. But recently, as in a year ago, I began a realtionship with a very spectacular guy. We were very very good together, and I fell in love, i guess.
And then, because I felt too dependent on him, I decieded (6 months later) that it was time for us to go our seperate ways.
This affected him more than I expected, and affected me FAR more than I had expected. Usually I move on pretty fast and get over guys very quickly, I’m generally, completely unattached.
So a couple months later, we reconnected and decieded it was the right idea to go back out.
This was really awesome for me cause I realized in the time we had apart that was in love with him, and that life without him wasn’t necessarily bad, but it wasn’t anywhere near as good as it was when he was with me.
But two months after our “reconnection” he tells me that it’s not the same, and that we have to break up…
I guess he got over me, while I was beginging to realize what he truely means to me.
I still love him so much, and I’m really glad he’s happy

but i still cry myself to sleep every night, and my heart still beats faster whenever i see him (we’ve decieded to be friends, so he says hi and smiles at me in the hall :)). i have crazy mood swings in school which generally i cant really explain to my friends.

i know i have to get over him, but how?
and is it normal not to want to get over him?
would it be a bad idea to talk to him about how i feel…?

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:kay: offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month ago (40 minutes after post)

I don’t think it would be a bad idea to talk to him about it. But, be warned. Just because I say it’s not a bad idea, doesn’t mean it’s going to end well. It very well could end with him not returning your feelings. But at least he would know, and who knows, he might surprise you be feeling something similar. And I do think it’s normal not to want to get over him. You’re in love, that’s kind of how that goes. I really hope everything turns out like it’s supposed to. =)

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (14 hours, 35 minutes after post)

To get over him you may need to find someone who is better looking and treats you better. However there is no telling when that person would exactly come along. Throw yourself intoyour school work in another sugestion to get over him.
When one does not want to get over a great relationship it is normal cause they don’t want to lose what a great thing that they had. However you are still very young and have practically your whole life ahead of you. Don’t let one guy ruin what can be the best time of your life.
As for talking about your feelings its ok to being them up every now and then and always be honest about them, however do not nag him about them. He has trusted you to be his friend. If you prove to be a good friend maybe he will see the errors of his ways and want you back one day.
Crying yourself to sleep?!? WHY? no boy on this planet is worth crying over. Sure he might have been a great boyfriend but perhaps there is better out there waiting for you. Your intelligent, beautiful, and an awesome person. Don’t let one fools bad mistake ruin it not other for other guys but, lashing out to your friends, your friends as well. Your friends merely want to see you happy and joyful again or want to hang with the girl that they once knew before all this happened. Don’t lose yourself cause this guys making a HUGE mistake. Look at it as his mistake, he knows what he lost, and i love myself.
Good Luck my friend

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christin offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (17 hours, 24 minutes after post)

thank you both, I really appreciate your kind words, and truthfully they help me a lot.
:)

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