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I keep thinking about this guy for years but we have not even made out & I am trying to get rid of him in my head but I can’t! I think its wrong to feel this way because we are first Cousins but I can’t help it. He always teases me and stares at me and yes I know he is attracted to me too. Most other people know we have the hots for one another. But then again, we’re first cousins, that is a Big Deal! How do you deal?
i had that ploblem once, u just think of all the bad things, and think how hes going to change…r u going like him then?
No don’t think so … but his part of my life. I haven’t heard anybody bad-mouth him. They all say his a nice guy.
oh wow, get him mad, make him do something to u to hate him i guess
Anonymous wrote:
I keep thinking about this guy for years but we have not even made out & I am trying to get rid of him in my head but I can’t! I think its wrong to feel this way because we are first Cousins but I can’t help it. He always teases me and stares at me and yes I know he is attracted to me too. Most other people know we have the hots for one another. But then again, we’re first cousins, that is a Big Deal! How do you deal?
Don’t get together with family, it probably will cause problems later on.
blink blink*
SirTannen wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
I keep thinking about this guy for years but we have not even made out & I am trying to get rid of him in my head but I can’t! I think its wrong to feel this way because we are first Cousins but I can’t help it. He always teases me and stares at me and yes I know he is attracted to me too. Most other people know we have the hots for one another. But then again, we’re first cousins, that is a Big Deal! How do you deal?
Don’t get together with family, it probably will cause problems later on.
ya that a good idea. if u realy love him just dont care what the world thinks!! do what u want to
Ah I give up, get together with your cousin and when anybody asks just say it was his fault.
ahaha…you two are so funny. I thought I deleted that! Ok but am not sure whether this is true love or just lust
Probably lust. You would know if it was love, lol.
On that subject, I wish someone loved me. :(
Hey Anonymous how is the ghost problem going?
Yea thats confusing…’you would know if it was love’…but then again there are alot of people who think its ‘love’ at first…then they change their minds!? lol.
Aw I luv you xx
Nothing wrong with spreading some love : )
Nah nobody luvs Tan’, I’m not good enough for such things it seems from experience.
good i guess thanx ^^ and y is depressed also cause of u?
Nobody understands him, see the pumpkin wants to grow up to be a guitarist but I’m making him be a mobster zombie policeman and well, now his life is just a spiral of depression and cuts.
mm it might just be lust lolz,
Lust? Can lust really last years?
ya it can! if its just lust it will go away as soon as u **** them
To the point! lol Too many people don’t go straight to the point…I like you …And Tan I like you too so smile ok…don’t get all depressed on us now.
Anyway I care about him. I don’t want to use him like that. We’ve looked into each others eyes for what seemed like ages & it felt like it was just me & him you know, everything else around us just sort of dissappeared. Sound like Forbidden Love you think? or is it still Lust? lol
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1 month ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)
thanx, and i like tan to, and hes right, dont get all depressed…u dont want to die with regrets.dont look on the past make life the best even if its hell.
its sound like forbidden love. thats hot! lolz sorry
U speak your mind…no probs! Yea so like Stan said I guess I’ll have to keep away from family gatherings … I know that doesn’t sound too great either but I’ve been doing so far… thus my current problem…his in my head…you dig? lol
Silly parasite family members.
No clue what you meant by that. _
Which part? The LMAO or Hard-Out? LMAO - “Laugh My *** off” … Hard-Out means “I totally agree”
I thought LMAO ment Looking Moody After Oatmeal?!?!? :O
LOL ??? Can I ask what was the Ghost problem?
Ok that was off topic…any other ideas how I can handle this? I’ll get back to you later on whether it helps if am ‘keeping my distance from family’…
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1 month ago (2 hours, 36 minutes after post)
lolz so! random is great! and portals thats all, and mm tell him ^^ might be a good idea
Yea … thats like giving the ‘Go ahead’ sign right? Go ahead lets just go for it … I don’t want to cause trouble with my family … what say I just keep it to myself and die with this heart-ache of mine. Does that make me a coward in this case?
You won’t have the thing forever.
Anonymous changed the tags on this post: they were "Love, boubdaries, cousins, boundaries" 1 month ago.
The thing??? What did you mean?
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1 month ago (2 hours, 47 minutes after post)
umm dont care what ur family thinks! do something for u
The feeling, my feelings I had for humanity died a while ago.
*blink blink* just be urself and dont care what other ppl think of you
SirTannen wrote:
The feeling, my feelings I had for humanity died a while ago.
It can’t have.You still have a sense a humour … what happened a while ago?
I know off topic, just bear with me for a sec ok? lol … I want to know!
xXx_AmAyA_xXx wrote:
*blink blink* just be urself and dont care what other ppl think of you
Yea be myself and go for it right? If I do go for it, just hope my family doesn’t go against me or something …
They probably will, and you probably will end up heartbroken later on as well.
blink blink* that not nice either
Keeping it in is better than Confessing? I know of someone whose confessed. It didn’t work. But she’s all good and she’s so happy she went for it. She did end up staying good friends with him. I’m hoping…I will be still happy and still learn to go beyond it even if it doesn’t turn out the way I would have liked it to.
dont be sorry, no regrets its who u r.^^ i and like it
Tan you keep saying that then you won’t feel any better … if you don’t like where you’re at, change something, try a new hobby…go look for something interesting and that can be fun for you … go get’em Tan!
xXx_AmAyA_xXx wrote:
dont be sorry, no regrets its who u r.^^ i and like it
Yea thanx Amaya
Thanx all : ) for your help
I tried and failed, life is a silly thing indeed.
And no problem Mar’.
dont be sorry, u r u, ad i like it ^^
lolz then just be ur self
I think it makes sense to not feel unhappy about it and just keep what ever is in your mind about him, as a good memory rather than a bad one, more like an incident, in your life and you will feel the same every time you remember this incident, but at least this way it will not bother you as much and you will feel more relaxed, (i don’t know if this helps, it worked for me).
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1 month ago (1 day, 7 hours after post)
I swear thats incest.
Disgusting.
Yea, I’ve got a similar problem with a co-worker. I’ve had a pretty serious crush on her for over a year now, despite the fact she already has a boyfriend. She just moved out-of-state a couple of weeks ago, but that hasn’t changed a thing for me - I still can’t stop thinking about her, and it’s making me crazy. I have to constantly distract myself - surf the internet, play a video game, listen to music, play guitar - otherwise I get all bent out of shape.
That being said! With your situation… cousins and all… I dunno. I’ve been attracted to cousins of mine as well, never did anything, but in hindsight I sorta wish I did :^) It’s pretty taboo in this day and age, but it isn’t in other countries, other centuries. But then again you have to wonder - “Won’t this make future family gatherings horribly awkward??” Ah, consequences…
Anonymous wrote:
I swear thats incest.
Disgusting.
There are more disgusting things in life :P … these are just my feelings & thoughts. I haven’t acted on it … thus my question above! You can’t choose who you fall for … how I wished it would have been easier, different & Cupid should have matched me up with someone am not related to…Sometimes I think he(Cupid)made a mistake.Ofcourse some religions allow marriages within close family relatives & its normal for them. It is alright for my family too, except for brother sister marriages Obviously No! (my aunt married her first cousin - my uncle lol), but I never thought it was a normal thing in our society. As long as the guy cares for me just as much as I care for him, I guess my family will be fine with it…
Hamburger Helper wrote:
Yea, I’ve got a similar problem with a co-worker. I’ve had a pretty serious crush on her for over a year now, despite the fact she already has a boyfriend. She just moved out-of-state a couple of weeks ago, but that hasn’t changed a thing for me - I still can’t stop thinking about her, and it’s making me crazy. I have to constantly distract myself - surf the internet, play a video game, listen to music, play guitar - otherwise I get all bent out of shape.
That being said! With your situation… cousins and all… I dunno. I’ve been attracted to cousins of mine as well, never did anything, but in hindsight I sorta wish I did :^) It’s pretty taboo in this day and age, but it isn’t in other countries, other centuries. But then again you have to wonder - “Won’t this make future family gatherings horribly awkward??” Ah, consequences…
Yeah have been wondering that for ages … Do you still have a way to contact her? Lets hope she dumps her bf and comes running back to you :) … nobody said you couldn’t keep your hopes up. But then again I think this is whereJigokus advise comes in handy…
Jigoku Shoujo wrote:
I think it makes sense to not feel unhappy about it and just keep what ever is in your mind about him, as a good memory rather than a bad one, more like an incident, in your life and you will feel the same every time you remember this incident, but at least this way it will not bother you as much and you will feel more relaxed, (i don’t know if this helps, it worked for me).
Yea I like the sound of that. Since you say it worked for you, I will give it a try too
Thanx Jigoku : )
MarmaladeFreak wrote:
…It is alright for my family too, except for brother sister marriages Obviously No! (my aunt married her first cousin - my uncle lol), but I never thought it was a normal thing in our society…
Hmm, then how about this: My Grandfather and grandmother were stepbrother/stepsister at first. Kinda like a Brady-Bunch sort of thing. Their parents married when they were kids, they grew up together, Grandpa went away for World War II, came back years later… sometime after that they got married and my Dad was born. Pretty weird, I guess. But if it were any other way I wouldn’t be alive. So I ain’t complaining.
MarmaladeFreak wrote:
Yeah have been wondering that for ages … Do you still have a way to contact her? Lets hope she dumps her bf and comes running back to you :) … nobody said you couldn’t keep your hopes up. But then again I think this is where Jigokus advise comes in handy…
Yeah, I have her email, FB, and all that. We’ve chatted over AIM since she left, so there’s still communication at least. But part of me is saying, “You’ll probably never see her again, move on dude”. My heart is so **** stubborn, though. Really frustrating.
Jigoku gave great advice, mad props. I’ll try to consider knowing her as a happy memory, but it’s so hard to detach sometimes…
Sir Tannen
MarmaladeFreak
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