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That’s quite a horrible situation, way to be used.

I really feel sorry for you tho. :(

You can’t force your boyfriend to do anything, and you can’t keep this baby as you are still a child yourself.

Anonymous wrote:
You can’t force your boyfriend to do anything, and you can’t keep this baby as you are still a child yourself.

Wow anonymous, you’re quite cold. Go tell em’ to jump off a building while you’re at it eh?

tell your parents. you dont have to deal with this by your self

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You can’t force your boyfriend to do anything, and you can’t keep this baby as you are still a child yourself.

Wow anonymous, you’re quite cold. Go tell em’ to jump off a building while you’re at it eh?

That is against the ToS which you probably never bothered to read, Anonymous.
She asked a question; “What do I do?”, so I gave her the solution. There’s no way she can keep this child in a fair state. Probably doesn’t even know the first thing about growing anything. Someone sensible, who isn’t practically driven by parental hormones, needs to get involved.

tell your mom. srsly. i went through this with a girl, she turned to her family.

there’s adoption, so you won’t feel bad and he could be ‘free’. tell your parents and his family, as the baby will always be his child as well. there’s no reason why they shouldn’t know, as far as him not having a life, giving the baby up for adoption means he won’t have to. killing yourself isn’t the answer, otherwise you might as well get an abortion and feel better for giving him the freedom of having no child and live through it that way. you might love him but the kid should be your priority now.

Well, you have two options you can tell your parents and raise the child yourself or you can tell your parents and give the child for adoption. Either way if you are living with your parents you will have to tell them. If you aren’t then whether or not you tell them is quite contingent on the situation. If they are normal or better than normal parents than telling them would be a good idea as they could help. Of course there are always instances where it would not be wise, but generally it would be the smart thing to do. Raising a child at your age, while very hard, is not impossible.

You will be in my prayers.

you have three options

or, the third, would be tell your parents, and as you are still a minor, have an abortion which will be covered by your parents insurance probably.

Telling your parents is probably the best option here, as those above have been saying. Don’t stress yourself about how he’ll react if you do tell your parents. By acting this way and trying to ‘free’ himself of this responsibility he has no right to keep you from seeking help and telling those who will care and help you. It’s unfair for him to expect you to handle this all your own. I wish you the best in your situation and no matter how hard it might get, just remember to take it one day at a time.

Tell someone…. your parents, a trusted friend, a family member…. anyone…. it won’t seem so bad once you share it with someone. The boyfriend is better off out of it to be honest,…. he has used you but don’t worry about that at the moment… Get through the next few months when you have decisions to make and then concentrate on the future…. Don’t hurt yourself or your baby….You are not the first woman in the world to be pregnant and without the father on the scene… i did it with two children and i’m twenty years down the line now….You can be strong and get through this. Best wishes.

To the point. Abortion or adoption. If abortion you had better decide quickly. In terms of cost. Let me assure you an abortion is a lot cheaper than raising a child.

As for taking your life, for what? What a complete and total waste. Don’t do it because you think you’ll somehow make him feel bad and guilty. It won’t work. I had someone I loved commit suicide. It was hell for a while but you know what. Life went on. After a while bills had to be paid, school had to be completed, a job had to be attended you and now, here I am 20 years later and while I think of him from time to time on his birthday or the day he killed himself, I’ve moved on and fell in love again. Life has to be lived and its for those who persevere. I’m living and he’s dead. Gone. Kaput. And when I think of all the great things I’ve done and experienced in the past 20 years it is a real shame and loss - his own. I don’t mean to be harsh, but you’ll be the biggest loser in a suicide. You’ll throw it all away and there will be no coming back. Everyone else will keep living.

So what do you do. Take charge of the situation. Get some counseling. Speak to a trusted friend or family member. If he knows you are going through this, I’m sorry he is a real **** for not being there for you. You are too young to have gotten pregnant. This was a mistake. You likely haven’t completed your education. There are so many things you need to do and work towards, including some self respect.

actually, i just read through the post again…and an abortion perhaps is not such an option anymore, seeing as OP is already 3 months along =/

Whatever you do, don’t hurt yourself.
It seriously is not worth it. You have so much potential, you have so much to live for, so many things to achieve in life - and although life is incredibly tough right now it will get better.
My advice would be, although it is most likely the hardest thing you can imagine at the moment, would be to tell your parents - if their loving, and caring they are going to love you no matter what, and would most likely do anything in the world to help you out. If you feel like you can’t tell them maybe you could talk to someone you trust that knows you very well, a teacher or somebody…it is always good to get a few peoples advice..especially older more experienced people.
You shouldn’t feel like you have to go through it alone, somebody will be there to help you out - you just have to let them.
As for the boy, don’t let him hurt you anymore. I would just concentrate on getting yourself back on track, getting your life back in order, take a break from everything.
Im guessing if he’s the one that has run away from responsibility, everyone is going to be on your side - and want to help you out.
But please, please - don’t hurt yourself. I know it feels like the world is against you at the moment, but maybe you just haven’t noticed how many people actually love you.

you can keep the baby..you can be the best mother..its half of your blood dont kill your own baby..
he just used you for his mind..sorry for that…

Keep the baby..and dont harm your self..

or adoptin or tell your parents to help you..and explane them what happend

goodluck

dont kill yourself and definitely dont kill the baby. why should the baby be killed because of your boyfriend’s immaturity? the baby is also a victim of this. adoption might be a good idea, but i want to encourage you to talk to your parents on this issue. dont go through this by yourself, seek help from parents and other nonprofit organizations that could help you through this, such as churches. you need a lot of physical, emotional, and financial supports. as in regards to your boyfriend, dump him. it would do you more good than harm. you are so precious and you can and will survive. take care okay, you’ll be in my prayers. needhim.org.

Anonymous wrote:
dont kill yourself and definitely dont kill the baby. why should the baby be killed because of your boyfriend’s immaturity? the baby is also a victim of this. adoption might be a good idea, but i want to encourage you to talk to your parents on this issue. dont go through this by yourself, seek help from parents and other nonprofit organizations that could help you through this, such as churches. you need a lot of physical, emotional, and financial supports. as in regards to your boyfriend, dump him. it would do you more good than harm. you are so precious and you can and will survive. take care okay, you’ll be in my prayers. needhim.org.

100% agree

death is not an option. do not harm yourself, do not harm your unborn child. your baby is your family now & u do not give up on your family. so ur 18 turning 19? girls have babies younger than u, like at 16, and the still keep their baby & make great parents, even on their own. u are obviously going to need support, so tell your family if u can, tell your friends, start going to a church. there are so many services dedicated to helping girls who are all on their own, u can have this baby, u can be a single mother, and u can also still meet an excellent guy who loves u even if have a baby to somebody else.

trust me im preg, and the father of my baby isnt living in the same town as me, all he doe is get wasted everyday & spend all this time with his irresponsible party friends.

forget him, ur better than that, u are going to have such a cute beautiful loving baby in a matter of months. boyfriends come & go but your child will love u & be there for u for ever. dont give up on your dear baby. please be strong & find help, life goes on, and in a few years u will be so grateful u made the right choice when ur looking at your beautiful child & u meet the most amazing man who is there to take care of u.

bless u, there is so much hope for your situation yet!!! xoxoxoxox

HellO Anonymously please,reply us.