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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 19 months.

I feel he is my soul mate and I want to spend forever with him, but he doesn’t feel the same way I do at least not now he says. He told me that he realizes he is not as affectionate/loving/romantic with me as he was with his ex-girlfriends. He also told me that he doesn’t love me as much as he loved the others. He told me that he has been hurt in the past and doesn’t want to get hurt. He said he knows how much I love him and that’s why he’s with me. I want a commitment from him. What can i do?

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Cell offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 54 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 month ago (37 minutes after post)

Ease off. No good trying to force things.

Your lire isn’t all about him. Make sure you have other interests/things to do. Don’t smother him.

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1 month ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

You can’t do anything…. the guy has told you as clearly as possible that he does not feel for you the way you feel for him… he’s even admitted that he has had stronger feelings for other people… the guy is using you as a stop gap until the “one” comes along… Move on and find someone who loves you for you.

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Cell offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 54 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 month ago (1 hour, 17 minutes after post)

sorry *life not lire!

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ℓινιηg4уσυ offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1,040 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month ago (13 hours, 54 minutes after post)

Move on and find someone who really loves you for you
its better now..then later on..

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tnotter offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (1 day, 19 hours after post)

Dump him! So what, you love him. He doesn’t love you! Why be with someone who doesn’t care about you the way you do. Move on and find someone who will love you equally. In my opinion, you are wasting your time!

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