what age are you just outta curioaity?
My mates sister is going through the same thing at the moment.
i know because she talks to me but noone in her own family.i guess because i dont judge her.
she sees this guy who she really likes but she knows if anyone knew about it that all hell would break loose.well she is only 15 yrs old.
im 17. im in the stereotypical asian family — unfortunately strict at least when it comes to boys
CrimsonSaku wrote:
Lol whoops
i hate when that happens :P
anyway dont you think that at 17 you should be making your own choices?
Yeah i know, but they want me to be done with college first *rolls eyes*
doesnt every mother and father want their kid to finish college first though:P
i think you have to stand up to them and make it clear that this is something you want because at the end of the day..this is REAL LIFE.this aint no rehearsel,we not gonna get second chances.
otherwise you can keep sneaking around behind their back.personally i think if i was a father i would be more pissed my kids sneaking behind my back and lying than jjust coming telling the truth
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oh i’ve tried, believe me. it’s hard to when they look at you with disappointment and my mom crying >_ and then they switch into anger mode, that’s scary. plus they’re racist and i like a caucasian guy :)
race is always a problem I HATE it.i hate how the world ios corrupted with racism.why does color matter or ethnic background…sigh…anyway not helping you i know :/
what country do you live in btw?
what about if you introduced him as just a friend?
than when you parents warm up to him a little you can break the news.
You should always listen to your parents. They have crazy rules for good reasons. Boys are too immature to date at your age anyway. You’ll never regret respecting your parents, but you’ll always regret separating yourself from them, and disappointing them. If you keep wanting to go behind their back, you could end up hurting yourself. And those wounds never really go away.
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but she really likes this guy and shes 17 years old its not like shes a 9 yr old girl with a crush on a school boy.her parents are not to be listened to in my opinion for a start theyre racist…who are they to say she cant date a white guy.
i wasnt immature at 17.infact i met my ex fiance when i was 16 and we together for many years and i would not trade that for nothing…NOTHING!!!
not even education,and i did sneak behind my parents back and she sneaked behind hers and in the end they gave in cos they realised that nuthing they could do could stop us…short of tying us up at home which was obviously not gunna happen
No matter how “Eastern” your parents may be… many parents in Western society feel the same way. You are in college for a college education, not to meet boys… that was how it was in the 1940’s and 50’s… but no longer. Since they were raised with that past generations attitude and they of course remember it. But they want better for you. Back then many women quit college after they found their guy… even if they didn’t get knocked up. They want more for you; so try not to hold this against them… they are having to fend off old attitudes too. So tell me, why are you in college?
sometimes when i post on help.com i honestly feel like im a wierdo.
please tell me you see the sense in what im saying
EX fiance is a good clue. Take it from someone who’s made many relationship mistakes. Your heart is like a beautiful box with many jewels. Every time you have a relationship, you give one of the jewels away. Every time you’re physical with that person, you give even more jewels away. Someday, you’ll meet the man of your dreams. Someone who cares about having your parent’s respect. And you’ll want to give him a beautiful box, but if you’ve given all your jewels away, you won’t have much to give him.
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omg…your heart is like a box of jewels????
reality check …your heart is a beating lump of muscle and blood.
and dont dare judge me cos i have an ex.i take it your whole llife has been wit one person and one person only cos in my opinion from your last post youve had some pretty ****** relationships…cos youve not got any “jewels” to give.
she could be with this man for the rest of her life.and your saying its a mistake.how the hell do you know? do you know the guy? your giving advice from your past experiences just like i did
Keep yourself busy and have a Boyfriend on the Site without telling them.Personally
i would not like that from my Daughter but as long as you have good Marks in School and work hard they might give in..
Going against your parents wishes is a surefire way to ruin any trust you had with them in the first place.
youll be going off to college really soon anyways, just wait till then, and then you can do whatever the heck you want
The more you’re open to you’re parents the more they’ll understand you. If they start talking or reprimanding you, just LISTEN… soon you’d realize their point of view. Have a good and open relationship with you’re parents, they know better, belive me, i’ve been through that and had to go through consequences that parents protect you from.
wait untill 18..and then you will be freedom do what ever you want!!
I am not in college for the person who thinks I am? Besides I have a 3.9 GPA and I’m taking college classes while in high school. That should show a litte of how mature I am.
My parents dislike me even having male friends. I’ve already been deprived of memories people have that I don’t, so shouldn’t I try to make the most of high school? Deprived, I mean by never having: gone camping, a sleepover, learned to ride a bike, fly a kite, fishing, and stuff regular kids get to do. They didn’t let me do things because something could happen to me.
Open relationship? My parents are always working, we never have family time. It’s been 7 years and they still don’t know what instrument i play in orchestra. They never remember my birthday and always need to call me when picking up prescriptions to ask when it was. They don’t even know my favorite color. I know that they spend a lot of time working hard for a life they want me to have that they didn’t but still — I’d prefer memories over materials :/
And right now, I’d like to make memories with this guy :)
that just shows how intelligent you are.
i know plenty of smart kids who dont have a clue about life, to be honest.
Wait till youre 18, then you can do whatever you want.
Sorry… I thought you were in college… my point none the less is the same; your parents are doing what they think is best for you with the best they have to work with. And from the sounds of it, their best is not very good. Your life sounds like borderline abuse… cloistered away and not allowed to do anything, and never receiving any kind of attention. It also sound to me like you’ve got your mind made up in terms of what you are going to do… so you’re nearly 18… do it.
Richard Cor de Lyon wrote:
Sorry… I thought you were in college… my point none the less is the same; your parents are doing what they think is best for you with the best they have to work with. And from the sounds of it, their best is not very good. Your life sounds like borderline abuse… cloistered away and not allowed to do anything, and never receiving any kind of attention. It also sound to me like you’ve got your mind made up in terms of what you are going to do… so you’re nearly 18… do it.
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