Relationships help: About four months ago I started talking to a guy I met online. - Help.com

Hmm, if you think he’s the one and trust that he won’t up and go at the sight of trouble, basically if you think he’s worth it, then I think you should go for it.

However, 4 months is a very short amount of time to completely know a person in. When you’re sure, 100% sure, then you should definitely make the move. But if it’s going to be a short term thing, it’s just not fair on your kids or on you.

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Is there any reason he can’t move to be near you?

I would say that if you have only met once or twice, that is not enough to know whether you would be wise in uprooting your family to be with him. Give it more time and get to know each other really well first.

Perhaps spend a few holidays together so that you get extended time as a family unit and can test the waters? Choose something the children would like - camping or a chalet in the countryside perhaps. If he has not yet met your children, and they have not met him, it is definitely too soon to be considering moving in with him. You need to see how they relate to each other and be comfortable with him as a potential father, not just as your potential partner.

If this is true love.. my gut feeling is he would be on the bus to you at every opportunity and would understand that uprooting your family on a maybe is just not the right way of doing things.

I absolutely agree with mumstheword, that’s very wise advice.

Well this is a HUGE decision. Life changing not only for you two but your children as well. In this situation though, your kids will make new friends. How many opportunities are you going to have to find a loving caring man. who not only cares about you, but about your kids too. It will be hard to lose everything your used to but sometimes you need to close a door to open a new one. This is your call. Noone can make this decision for you. If you have an kind of hesitation don’t do it til it is most certain what will make you happy and what you want for your life. You have sacrificed for your kids and this will be a sacrifice they will have to make but for you to be happy i think it will be well worth the sacrifice.
Good Luck my friend

Thanks! And he can’t move to be closer to me he owns several businesses and can’t just up and leave. We have disscussed that actually. Yes he has met my children.We all spent a two and a half weeks together. He loved them and they loved him. I think I’m just scared of the old too good to be true thing!! I think I will wait–maybe go and spend a week or so alone with him and get to know him a bit more.

Well Don’t forget about once in a life time opportunity. Besides you should not do it if you have any doubts. It not really his life who will be changing but yours. So you have to been fully sure that this move is what you want. If he loves you the way it sounds he will understand and stil love you and your kids none the less.
Good Luck my friend