Love help: I have been with my partner for almost two years, but im not happy. - Help.com

What’s he say when you tell him how you feel?

Sounds to me like you need to get your relationship by the ankles and give it a good shake down!
Meaning you need to tell him things are getting rotten/stale and you want to fix it but it needs both people in the relationship to want the same thing for it to work, if he wants to save it then agree to meet at a certain place and time and make sure he sets the time for you and him, no other distractions and work through it.
Don’t tell him what he does wrong tell him what you think would work better, so say things like, it would be great if you could do (a) sometimes and while you do that I will do (b) so he feels that it is not all an attack on him because as they say, it takes 2 to tango so if your unhappy in the relationship it is half your responsibility as well as his.

Relationships only work when both members do things for each other.

Unfortunately, if you create a situation where a man is dependent on you financially, he will stop seeing you as a romantic partner and more as a mother. A man needs work, he needs to feel powerful and decisive etc. to fulfill his masculinity.

Even if he can’t get paying work, he can volunteer, he can cook, clean, etc. and those are all good forms of work. But he must work or he becomes a child and loses his self-respect as a man.

He doesn’t make you emotional. You own your own emotions.

You’re not happy. You’ll be happy if you’re in a relationship where a man puts you first and looks after your needs. He doesn’t do that. So the answer is tell him what you need and if he can’t give it to you, you leave.

There’s no magic to it.

Wake up.

If he loved you he would show it with his actions by doing stuff for you, taking care of you etc. If he has no job, he would make you breakfast and pack a lunch, do the laundry and groceries and clean the house, fix problems around the house, do renovations, give you massages, listen to you and take you out (even on your dime).

Words mean nothing. He depends on you. That’s not the same.

hunny i have been married for 3 years and in a relationship that you feel upset in or that you feel like you are being put on the back burner its just not worth it you will keep trying to make him happy and payment for that is your own happiness its truly not worth it to give up your happiness no mateer how much you love him take care of you not him go out have fun there shouldn’t be any reason why you can’t. everyone shopuld make rime for themselves

linuxya is right on the money… I think linuxya is a man? If not then Linuxya is a surprisingly astute woman! Either way listen to what Linuxya is saying… because it’s 100% correct. If you want to learn more about men, listen to Alison Armstrong… this is a 30 min free podcast… every minute listening to this woman is worth it. http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts…

O_o why would you stay with him for 2 years and let him treat you like crap?
you really need to work on your self respect, when that is higher you will realise youre worth more.