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I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but I feel like I’m slowly going crazy. Two years ago, when I was 16, I was in a super emotionally and physically abusive relationship. I dated the person for over a year until he made an attempt to break into my house and kidnap me and he was arrested. I didn’t date anyone for over a year. Then, when I turned 18 I met this absolutally amazing guy. We’ve been dating for a year and he’s been nothing but great to me. I can’t say the same for myself. I get super upset with him for the littelest things and once and a while I get so upset and I feel like a lose control and I slap him. I’m not big or strong enough to actually hurt him, but I can’t believe I’m doing this. I seriously feel like I can’t control myself when I explode. I say the meanest things to him - I call him ugly, a waste of a life, bad in bed, anything I can think of to hurt him, yet somehow he’s the one begging to be with me! Help. I don’t want to be like this anymore. What can I do?

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malori* offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

You need to see a counselor or psychiatrist. all that negative abuse is still too close to the surface. you have to deal with it before you can have a positive relationship with someone new.

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BamBamKid offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

I agree with malori* you should also let him know how you’re feeling.

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malori* offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

Does he know about your past relationship?

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 155 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

You need to see someone. You are sabotaging your relationship because you think you don’t deserve to be happy. If this guy is as amazing as you say he is and you keep on mistreating him, sooner or later he will give up on you. No matter how pretty and charming you are. Beauty only goes so far and it’s only skin deep. I get the feeling you feel secure that he won’t leave you because you are a good looking woman.

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 67 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (50 minutes after post)

How often does this happen? Everyone loses their temper once in a while but if it is a weekly thing something is wrong. What exactly causes you to go into these tantrums? Just little day to day occurences? You need anger management, it’s not just for guys. Talk to a clergyman they are all extremely experienced in dealing with relationship problems, trust me I have had marriage counseling with one.

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