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Yeah a lot of people are like that, they just aren’t good at conversations and are boring to hang around because they never want to do anything. Are they on dope? It sounds like you could find some better friends who are more like you.

Hey thepeble.
I use to have this problem a LOT,
and you’re not going to like the answer to it.
But once I accepted it, it helped me a lot.
First your friends probably aren’t as mature in the common sense part
of their brain yet. By this I mean they don’t go one step ahead of the game to
improve friendships and make friendships like you do.
This is not a bad thing, it just means you’re probably taking their responses to
personally because you are smarter than them.
Also, ask yourself why you’re so eager to get friends and have good relationships with them.
This could be a problem with in yourself that you may need to work on,
and that’s okay. Everyone has problems, Everyone!
When I was in this situation I found I needed to start befriending myself before
I worried about anyone else. B/C if you’re not friends with yourself then people will
walk all over you and socializing won’t be fun.
By befriending yourself I mean listen to yourself, be kind to yourself. Your opinion
matters, trust your instinct and know the decisions you make are right b/c they’re made by you.
Then view your peers as a grain of salt. don’t get worried or intimidated by them,
they’re just human. Most importantly the friends should come to you. Don’t force a relationship, it won’t work.
Just be yourself and if you wanna hang out with someone say so, if they keep declining your invite then they might
be the wrong person to hang around. Oh and they should start 50% of the conversations, it shouldn’t be all you.
There is a possible chance your friends now are REALLY lazy and not good enough for you.
But in the end listen to your heart/instinct. You know the right answer,
I’m just someone from the internet who thinks their interpreting this situation slightly correctly.
Good luck!