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my husband and i havnt been married a year yet and we fight all the time about so many little things.

it’s as if he wants to be happy but if im happy he tries to make me miserable and when he’s happy he wants me far away from him so that i cant ruin it for him. i don’t understand whats going on with either of us anymore i keep saying we both need help or else we wont make it through. but he says im the only one who needs help. i really just want to fix this all and be like we used to be. Today we were on our way out to a party but he changed his mind after he got mad that i went to the liquor store, I was just buying something and i don’t even drink myself, it was for my friend at the party. But he was out the whole day with his friends. After all that he yelled at me on the way home because we didnt end up going and he just asked me for a divorce today. He told me he doesn’t care anymore. What do i do? I have nowhere to go or anything.

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mixed_reality offline Verified User (1 month, 2 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 weeks, 1 day ago (14 minutes after post)

Wow, that’s heavy and I’m so sorry to hear it! If someone doesn’t want to work on a relationship there’s not a lot you can do… It also doesn’t sound like you could do anything to make him happy (if you say one thing he’s going to come back with the opposite). I think the fact that you suggested getting help was a really good step. If he refuses to go with you, you should still go see a councillor with the option of him eventually coming with you. A councillor would also be able to help set you up with resources in your area, should you find that your relationship does come to an end…

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sam2009 offline Verified User (4 weeks, 1 day) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 weeks, 1 day ago (17 minutes after post)

Maybe you should go to a good therapist and figure out what you want to do. He sounds like he wants out. I am so sorry to be so blunt but that is what I read in your post…
Either you both go to a marriage counselor and solve these problems or if he refuses you go and see what you can do about it and if you even want to stay with someone who is so dismissive and angry with you. Good luck.

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beatricegalant offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 29 #
An Unknown Location | 4 weeks ago (9 hours, 59 minutes after post)

When did the fights start during your marriage and what happened when it started?

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ℓινιηg4уσυ offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 946 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 weeks ago (10 hours after post)

You should sit down and talk about this fights..
And see what you can arrange and tell him what he can arrange..

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