my friend died and its all my fault. - Help.com

its not your fault. No matter how much you may think it is. Its your right to go or not and shouldn’t base your decision on some1 else. If they knew you weren’t going then they should have appointed another driver that wasn’t driking.

Its not your fault, what ever you do please dont think that its your fault.

Let me tell you a story when I was ten I moved from Illinois to Georgia and I had the best friend of my life in Illinois and she tried contacting me several times because she was having trouble with her family and boyrfriend. She ended up killing herself and she left a note saying that all she needed was someone to talk to and no body would talk to her. I felt for the longest time like it was my fault that if I would have talked to her instead of blowing her off she would still be alive. You have to understand that she made the decision to drive drunk. She could have easily not drank or not gone. I know it hurts really bad and it will for a long time. There is no easy way to get over the lose of a friend. THe only thing you can do is remember the time you had to gether that was fun and happy that is what she would want. You have to believe that she does not blame you and no one else does for that matter. It is not your fault. I am sorry again for your lose, but eventually it will get better. I am currently 22 and twelve years later I still cry about my friends death but I know she is in a better place.

First of all, I’m very sorry that you lost your friend. And surly it is not your fault!I know your thinking if you could go back maybe things would be differnt. Maybe it would and maybe you would have been killed two or hurt really bad. We just don’t know. You can’t beat yourself up over your dicision not to go to the party. As I said I’m very sorry that you lost her and I know you need to mourn. What matters now is how you can handle going forward.

It was her decision to go to the party…. her decision to drive drunk…. i’m sorry she paid the ultimate price for making a mistake but it was her decision, her mistake and not yours.

People are going to be grieving, they’re going to be sad, not angry, and NOT at you.
This is NOT your fault and you only feel it is because that’s the stage of grief you’re at

becc wrote:
it was my fault! i said i was going i should have went! if i went she would still be alive right now! everyone is going to hate me now! i hate myself i just want to ******* die!

Becc, I understand why you feel guiltly, but you shouldn’t. Its not your fault. You didn’t make them drive drunk, its their fault not yours. They could have taken a cab or disinated another person to be driver and not drink; they chose to drive drunk. Its not your fault,you have NOTHING to do with your friend’s death, please don’t feel like you do.

awh becc i’m so so sorry , awh hunni this isn’t your fault , this is really really awful, but you can’t be responsible for their actions, you didn’t make them go or drink and drive, i’m just so sorry for the pain your feeling at the loss of your friend,i’m here becc when you wanna talk, i’m so sorry to hear whats happening.

its not your fault, no one told them to drive drunk. its a choice they made, and those are the consequences.
you being or not being there had nothing to do with the fact that they made the choice.
it seems like you have some attention needing disorder, to turn this round and blame yourself when it obviously was not your fault. I suggest you go and talk to a councelor about this, and they will help you deal with your grief also.
also remember your friends families, they will need a lot of support right now too.

it is not your fault at all you are lucky you were not with her you could of died to.you were ment for to do something else with your life so live it to the fullest every day and give thanks to a higher being and pass around the luck

I have been and (and after a long time) still feel the same way about my friend’s death. Listen if you need someone to talk to shoot me a message any time. I have found if you have someone to just talk to someone. Just remember only you can decide how you feel, but it helps to have people who care.