Relationships help: Ok so there is this guy. - Help.com

I am going to take the opposite opinion here. I think she should try going out with him once or twice. This is the time to do this, when you are young and unattached. If you try to ignore it, it will come back and you will do it when you’re in your ’40s and raising kids, like my mom did. Yuck. Get it out of your system while it is still age-appropriate and you’re not affecting anyone else. There is another reason to go out with this guy, or one like him. And that is Social Intelligence. I used to be like you when I was in school. Great grades, activities, dressed nice, etc. No one would call me a nerd, but the truth is I kind of was a nerd, because I did not relate to other people very well. I couldn’t take a joke. I didn’t understand what motivated others. People didn’t trust me with their secrets because I was too judgmental. And this quality caused me great problems once I was in the working world. It took years to begin to understand others, especially those different from myself. That’s what you need to do, whether you get emotionally involved with this particular guy or not, there is something there that you need to learn. You could play it safe and make friends with a girl who has similar qualities, and him being 2 years older, he probably isn’t interested in anything but a booty call. But a female friend who lives differently than you, that could open your eyes. They are some of the most loyal and understanding people out there. Isn’t your current crowd getting to be a bit boring, anyway? Just my thoughts.