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My boyfriend says he loves me, but he is thinking he may have feelings for another girl.

I can’t even consider breaking up with him and I feel fine as long as I don’t think about it. How do I deal with this?

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Fuzzy Pepper offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 64 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

How old are you?

In my opinion, when you are HS or college age, and you have a boyfriend, that term is used loosely. I think that until you are married or engaged, it is OK to date others/explore other possibilities.

Young ppl need to do that in order to find out what they really want and what type of person they can actually LIVE WITH when they are ready for marriage and a family.

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shalikismybo offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (21 minutes after post)

men are men let him do him and jus keep ur guy friends des all!!!!!!!!!

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violin8rocks offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month ago (23 minutes after post)

Well no matter how “loosely” that termed is used… Love is supposed to be used exclusively, to one person. She is feeling betrayed, because that feeling is not being used exclusively.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (57 minutes after post)

That depends on what feelings are. If it means he has a physical response to a beautiful girl then every man is guilty. It’s the nature of the beast… if he acts upon these feelings or responses it is something entirely different.

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1 month ago (1 hour, 42 minutes after post)

Is the other girl the same girl he had a one night stand with? and has a son from? I can’t wait to see your next post..O yea If I wait 5 mins. it will be up!!

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justsoyoukno offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 month ago (8 hours, 41 minutes after post)

This does not sound good. If I were you, I’d ask him about his feelings towards you, let him describe it and let him think about it. Did he tell you about his feelings towards the other girl? Does he want to try it out with the other girl to see if it may be better? or he already know? Give it some time. If he thought about it and decide you are the most important person to him, then he just proved to himself he loves you. If he cannot help to go to find the other girl, then let him go, and accept that is what he wants, because you will not be the only one who will get hurt from this.

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Anonymous edited this post 1 month ago. Read the previous text »

My boyfriend says he loves me, but he is thinking he may have feelings for another girl. I can’t even consider breaking up with him and I feel fine as long as I don’t think about it. How do I deal with this?

Anonymous #
1 month ago (4 days, 1 hour after post)

he shouldnt have said he loves YOU if he thinks he feels something for another girl.. this is where he needs to compare which is worth more.. LOVING you or THINKING he might have a little thing for a different girl… love is supposed to be used like someone else said above, “exclusively” it means they love YOU and only YOU.. and if he doesnt mean it then move on.. cuz you cant trust him.

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