boys help: Does this sound healthy? - Help.com

Does this sound healthy?

I’m a junior in college. I am doing pretty okay in my classes, but I go to at least three parties a week. I get totally hammered at all of them, but most of that is probably me just letting go and loosing all my inhibitions. I don’t drink more than three shots a night. I drink a lot of water and sleep a lot during the week and exercise everyday.

1. A couple of my gay friends keep telling me that we should test out if they’re really gay.
I just brush it off as that we’re all really drunk. But they do it separately and quietly, like it’s a secret. I’m just going to ignore them.

2. I hooked up with this guy that’s in one of my classes, we don’t talk and I don’t care. I say hi to him when we run into each other and we’re both alone. He just nods like he’s too cool for school and barely smiles.

3. I hooked up with this guy that’s in one of my other classes, we do homework together now and I don’t feel anything romantic for him. I’ll probably hook up with him again if he wants to, but probably nothing else.

4. There’s this guy that I’ve talked to a couple times at parties and we say hi to each other no matter what, and I told him that since he’s a freshman he shouldn’t let older classmen hook up with him until after our fall break. I know I don’t want to date on campus, so why not make halloween memorable? anyways, I think we’ll just stay friends no matter what happens.

Ok, after writing that all out, I still feel like the second one’s a lie. He’s sweet, but totally a scaredy-cat. I’m probably doing the same thing to #3 as #2 is doing to me (partially ignoring each other), but at least I talk to #3 normally about homework and other junk. I really just liked #2 for his muscles. I feel so shallow for saying it, but I felt like at least he wasn’t a total wimp. Skinny guys can be strong too, like not physically, but mentally and emotionally, and all I know is that I haven’t met a guy on this campus that would carry his weight in a relationship. So—I’m not going to care about #2 anymore, just because I know that if I tried to be friends with him it would just be me looking for him to be a strong boy (friend) in my life. (GODDAMN though, he once threw his pencil at me in class. He’s a popular guy though, despite the fact that he sucks in bed, he’s a really good athlete, the kind of guy that all the soccer chicks here like)

I’m going to concentrate on studying (mentally and emotionally, I mean) instead of boys this semester, but still, does this all sound healthy?

What’s a good answer when someone who I know is gay when he’s sober when he tries to goof around too intimately with me?

I wish I had someone to snuggle with, but I can’t tell if #3 is worth snuggling with. And I know #4 is just gonna be a ****-show even to hook up with. We’ll probably goof around, can’t tell if he’ll regret it later. Can’t tell if I should risk the small little friendship we have (i.e. we’re friends on facebook, we say hi, that’s it) on a crazy night.

This open post was written 1 month ago | V/U/S: 96, 7, 4 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post

boys, healthy, snuggling (How Tags Affect Reciprocity)

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.