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You should write down what you want to say and then rehearse in front of a mirror. Once you feel comfortable and have memorized what you want to say, practice visualizing someone other than her when you talk to her.

In otherwords if you have someone other than your roommate that you always feel comfortable with and can talk about everything too… practice and concentrate that you are talking to them rather than her. It really, really works. You can visualize their face in front of hers when you are talking to her.

Right away you feel less restricted and able to relate anything to anyone, even a teacher or a policeman.

First of all, coughing is a bodily function and you have the right to do it when ever you want. Just be sure to cover your mouth. If she’s looking at you awkwardly simply say, ” is there a problem?”. If she doesn’t answer then its her bust and shes doing it to be a B****

With a roommate, you’ll have to communicate with each other; otherwise, it wont work out and you’ll grow to hate one another. If there’s something that’s bothering you, you MUST bring it up right away. Don’t just ignore it and hope her feelings towards you will change overnight. Talk to her before things get out of hand.

You sound humble enough to me and its something that you shouldn’t have to put up with.

Andrew’ is right too. But if you are feeling shy practice what I suggested and you should be able to communicate better with anyone for that matter. Good luck.

this ones easy. before confronting them, just remember that someone somewhere out there is currently taking a dump on someone elses chest, and that if you don’t stop the bs, that someone else could end up being you.

Write her a letter; organize your thoughts. It can sometimes be easier and help people understand you better.

This is one of those problems that you really have to dig deep and just do it.

Maybe it doesn’t have to be that dramatic. Yeah writing it down and practicing is good, if you want to make a big deal out of it and actually discuss the issue.

If not, just make little comments when she does something you don’t like. If you cough and she gives you a mean look, just look at her confused and say “get over it” then laugh/brush it off like it’s no big deal.

Summer Rain wrote:
Maybe it doesn’t have to be that dramatic. Yeah writing it down and practicing is good, if you want to make a big deal out of it and actually discuss the issue.

If not, just make little comments when she does something you don’t like. If you cough and she gives you a mean look, just look at her confused and say “get over it” then laugh/brush it off like it’s no big deal.

How is that solving anything? Just brushing it off? Saying things and acting cocky like that just might cause a fight.

I didn’t mean for her to just brush it off, and how is that acting cocky? What I meant is if she does do that, then her roommate might realise that she is in fact over reacting and she should get over it, and hopefully she will. Clearly I don’t think this is as big of an issue as you do; and there’s no right or wrong answer.

Maybe her friend is having a bad week or something. Or maybe she doesn’t even realise she’s doing that, or that it’s affecting her friend so much. I always have my bitchy moods, no one’s ever written me a letter, they just make comments like ‘what’s up your ***?’ Or ‘jeez get over it!’ they usually work fine.

I realised that all the other suggestions sounded the same and I thought giving a different point of view will help, I don’t know why that bothered you so much, but yeah, take care now.